Living Outside the Stacks

Navigating through life away from the library


Unanswered Prayers

The KidsI’ve spent the last year feeling sorry for myself and being  angry as hell because I don’t have a full~time job.  Honestly, I just couldn’t move past the thought of being financially dependent on my husband and sitting at home all day long.  Before anyone jumps on me, understand this:

  1. My husband has never made me feel less than for not having full~time employment, these were feelings of my own creation
  2. My children are teenagers so I’m not tending to little people like most SAHMs

I need to work.  I like having a paycheck and I love having some place to go every day.  And being a librarian was tailor made for me ~ it appealed to my inner g33ky book lover need to solve a mystery nurturing side.

When my kids were little, I was a SAHM and I hated it.  There wasn’t the community for SAHMs that exists today.  I was so incredibly lonely.  And when I did get the chance to talk to people, they were so dismissive of the role/importance of motherhood.  I didn’t truly appreciate the opportunity that I had until today.

This morning my children started school:  Miss 17 is a senior, the twins are in 9th grade and the youngest is in 8th grade.  From this point on, my time with my babies is limited.  When they were younger, I knew I had at least 18 years.  Now…  Oh man…  I’ve already started shedding tears.

Looking back on this past year has been a blessing in disguise.  I’ve had a year to spend with my kids, talking to them and loving them, making memories that will, hopefully, carry them into adulthood.  My husband likes to point out the blessings in the disappointments that I simply can’t see but sitting here tonight, filling out permission slips and health forms, the only thing I can say is “I thank God for unanswered prayers.”


Monday Mingle: Back to School Celebration Vlog/Blog

Monday Mingle BadgeMonday Mingle is hosted by Eighty MPH Mom. If you’d like to participate, simply create a short vlog in which you answer the questions and then hit up the linky. Don’t forget to grab the badge and leave some comment love for your fellow participants. Afterall, isn’t that what mingling is all about?

Today’s questions are from Robyn at Robyn’s Online World:

1.  What does your extended family think of your blog?
2. Has anyone in your family ever asked you not to include them in your blog?
3. How supportive is your immediate household about your blogging?

Next week’s questions are:

1. Are you going to BlogHer 11 in San Diego?
2. Have you been to any blogging events? Which ones are you planning on going to besides BlogHer?
3. Are you afraid to fly and, if so, does it prevent you from going places?


Online Book Club: The Handmaid’s Tale

The Handmaid's TaleA few weeks ago I joined an online book discussion group hosted by Trish at Hey Lady! Whatcha Readin’?  The actual discussion takes place at Classic Reads Book Club and the discussions are truly awesome.  We’re reading The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood, this is one of my favorite books.  I read it in high school and again in college.  I’ve even referenced it in papers when I took women’s history/studies courses.

Honestly, the topics for discussion are endless:  women, fertility, religious freedom, tolerance, politics, marriage, children, etc.  If you’ve never read this book, I’d highly recommend it.

I’ve tried to read other Margaret Atwood’s but I just didn’t get it (maybe I was too young)  but after I’m finished with The Handmaid’s Tale, I’m going to give Blind Assassins another whirl.  I’m nothing if not tenacious.

Do you have a favorite classic author?  Have you ever participated in an online book group?  Did you enjoy it?


Coffee Talk: Relax, Relate, Release

For more information about the Inner Mean Girl 40~Day Cleanse, click here.

Disclosure:  I am participating in the Inner Mean Girl 40~Day Cleanse as a Self~Love Ambassador.  To thank me for my participation, I will receive a self~love gift from the founders of the Inner Mean Girl Reform School.


Inner Mean Girl Cleanse: Give Up Gossip

Inner Mean Girl CleanseYesterday about 6000 of my closest friends and I started the Inner Mean Girl 40~Day Cleanse.  The Inner Mean Girl Cleanse is a self~improvement workshop for women that is taught by Amy Ahlers and Christine Arylo and hosted by Stacy of The Mom Renewal Project.  The purpose of the workshop is to encourage women to rid themselves of six toxic behaviors and replace them with habits that encourage self~love and respect.

Our first assignment is to give up all forms of gossip for the next seven days (that includes tabloid magazines, news shows that focus on celebrity scandals, etc,).  Why?  Because gossip hurts.  Think about how you feel when someone talks about you and it gets back to you, it hurts.  A lot.  And, honestly, when has anything good ever come from gossiping?  Never.

So why does the Inner Mean Girl like to gossip so much?  Because it makes her feel better about herself.  But that’s only a temporary feeling.  Think about it, if they’re gossiping with you, then they’re gossiping about you.  Therefore, it’s best to just avoid the negativity.

Our goal is to speak love, truth and respect into the lives of the people we encounter, so we’re being asked to replace gossip with “good talk.”  Good talk doesn’t mean having a Pollyanna attitude towards life and the people in it, it means thinking carefully about the reasons behind our words.

My Bible truth for this challenge comes from Proverbs 21:23 (NIV), “He who guards his tongue, keeps himself from calamity.”

Will you take the challenge with me and speak only truth and kindness for the next week?  If so, leave me a comment and tell me how it changed the way you interacted with family and friends.

Disclosure:  I am participating in the Inner Mean Girl 40~Day Cleanse as a Self~Love Ambassador.  To thank me for my participation, I will receive a self~love gift from the founders of the Inner Mean Girl Reform School.

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