Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Wow! Y’all, this is the last Friday of 2012. Is that crazy or what? I just want to take this time to thank all of you for hanging in there with me for the past year. I enjoy reading your comments on my blog, talking with you on Facebook, and sharing our lives on Instagram.

I’ve celebrated with some of you as you’ve added to your families and I’ve cried with others of you as you’ve lost loved ones. You’ve wished me well with all the changes in my life and laughed with me when I’ve had moments of silly. We’ve been through a lot this year and I thank you for sharing with me. My fervent prayer for each and every one of you is that you will find love, health and happiness in 2013 and that God will bless and keep you always.

Now enough of that, let’s bring on the crazy…

1. When I taught at university, I witnessed a lot of helicopter parents and I dealt with a lot of co~dependent kids but I never dealt with anything quite like this… A college student won a restraining order against her helicopter parents. According to newspaper accounts, the student’s parents would drive 600 miles from Kansas to Ohio for unannounced visits. They also installed keylogging software on her computer and a tracking device on her cell phone so they’d be aware of her every move. The school even went so far as to hire guards to keep the parents out of the music major’s performances.  Whoa I’ll admit, when I thought I was leaving my daughter in Pennsylvania, I cried for weeks but it never occurred to me to stalk the girl. That is the epitome of cray cray.

2. A man in Sweden has been granted disability benefits because of an addiction to heavy metal music. blank stare Apparently, his addiction is so bad that this guy can’t function without his skull and crossbones jewelry and long black hair. Nor can he stop attending heavy metal concerts, which led to his being fired because of reliability issues. I think this is just a case of a grown man not wanting to be a man, get a job and support himself. Hope springs eternal for all the gamers living in their parents’ basements.

3. Soooo, TLC has another reality show. It’s called “Wives with Beehives” and it’s all about modern women who live the lives of 50s housewives. insert one~eyed eye roll The four women featured were, um, interesting. On the one hand, I admired their dedication to the lifestyle and one of them even had a valid point about that being a time when “men were men” I have issues with men who spend more time getting ready to leave the house than I do But that being said, I also think those women are delusional. The 50s weren’t all pearls and fresh baked apple pies. Blacks were still being lynched, women were just this side of chattel and men were trying to escape the role of “the other”. I could do a whole history course on women and the 50s; oh, wait, I did. Women, if you want to dress like you live in the 50s, I think that’s fabulous but don’t glamorize the subjugation of an entire race of people and the submission of women to a standard that only June Cleaver could live up to.

This post is one of my most popular features and I look forward to more head scratchin’  in the new year.

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  • lawyerdoll

    I read all those stories as well, and I agree- those people are absolutely bonkers! Unfortunately, the helicoptering isn’t going away anytime soon….

    I have to deal with a lot of “concerned” parents, girlfriends, wives, etc. in my job as a defense attorney. Ugh! It really ticks me off when the parents, etc. talk about what “we” are going to do… there is no “WE”. There is me and my client. Period. You have no say!

    And no, I don’t have to talk to you, and calling my boss doesn’t change that. Ever hear of attorney-client confidentiality?

    Just a thought… perhaps if you had been more involved *earlier* in your kid’s upbringing, you wouldn’t be on the phone to the Public Defender’s Office trying to interfere in your infantilized adult child’s criminal case….

    • DaenelT

      I don’t know how you deal. I know it’s hard dealing with students and their parents, so I can’t imagine how it must be for you.

      Your last thought hit the nail on the head… Parents need to stop trying to be their kid’s friends and parent them.

  • Rae

    Wow! A restraining order on your parents? I can understand that because I know quite a few that just won’t let their kids grow up.

    I’m really starting to hate reality tv as it becomes less about reality.. or has that happened a while ago? I’m sure. Needless to say, that show is definitely not something I am even remotely interested in.

    • DaenelT

      That story had me kinda tripping out. That’s a lot of hovering to do. If you raise your kids the best that you know how, the only thing you can do is pray they make wise decisions. Stalking them doesn’t help at all.

      I’ll be so glad when the reality TV phase is over. I promise it has contributed to the dumbing down of America.

  • HollyM

    I’m addicted to your blog and Facebook posts. I want to stay home all day, in my jammies, noshing on junk food, reading your posts. Surely that is worth some disability dinero, don’t ya think? ;-)

    • DaenelT

      LOL If only, Holly.

  • LisaBrownDesign

    I just watched a preview of Wives With Beehives, and agree with you! Sure, they may have dressed cute, maybe they had nice hair or other things… but there’s NO WAY I’d actually want to live in the 50s. There’s a reason things aren’t the same as they were back then. I’ll take 2012 any day, even if I do still make food from scratch every now and then.

    • DaenelT

      I know, right? I agree with bringing some of the ideals forward (steady home life, homemade meals every now and then, chivalry, elegance, etc) but let’s not delude ourselves about how oppressive that era was for a lot of people.

  • Kelly TheWellReadRedhead

    Oh my. I work at a university and I WILL be telling that helicopter parent story at work on Monday. Insanity!!!

    • DaenelT

      Isn’t that the craziest thing ever?

  • Ellen Stewart Seaman

    I love your head scratching.

    Mac is moving away, and his plans are sketchy, but you know what? I’m letting him. Oh wait, I can’t even do that. He’s a grown-up! I suppose if the parents were paying for her education they had some rights, but boy they need to work on some boundaries (or at least have her go to college in KS. (I don’t think it’s the school’s job to provide guards however.)

    • DaenelT

      And that should be the attitude of all parents. I think parents who hover haven’t learned to live their own lives.

      I think the parents had become a disruption to other students/parents/faculty and staff.

  • Sistatech

    In can not take another reality show – let’s get back to drama. And helicopter parents – I mean – wow.

    • DaenelT

      Right? My kids are like “Mom, thank you for letting us go.” LOL I practice benign neglect.

  • Mylynka

    I Big Puffy Heart You! And where can we get some benefits for wearing jammies all day? I think I am addicted!

    • DaenelT

      LOL I wanna get some bennies too! And you know the big puffy heart is shared!

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