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Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, if you’re a regular reader you know that on Fridays I write a little post that I like to call “Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head”. It’s all about the crazy stuff that  I’ve read on the web or heard about on TV during the week. After writing that post for a year, I’ve learned one thing: there is a never ending stream of bizarre among the human race. And I love us for that.

With the new year I’ve decided to do a little revamping of these posts. The only things I’ve changed are the title and the picture. I like to think of these posts as if they’re conversations you and I would have over coffee. So I hope you’ll continue to join me each Friday for a cuppa and some head scratchin’…

1. Rape isn’t funny. And those who commit it, regardless of their age or athletic ability should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. This past week a young lady who was gang raped in India died from her injuries. In Ohio an underaged girl was raped by members of a football team who videotaped the incident and then texted and tweeted about the incident. Reportedly members of the football boosters and others in the town helped to cover up the incident to protect the reputations of the football players. This is why Penn State happened. Stop giving athletes carte blanche to be jerks. Social media activists, the victims parents, and Anonymous are collecting information to help prosecute the rapists. I applaud them and the others who’re helping to bring this young lady’s rapists to justice.

2. I didn’t watch CNN’s New Year’s Eve show. I never watch it. And I’m glad I didn’t as it seems the big drop was Kathy Griffin falling to her knees and kissing Anderson Cooper’s crotch. Seriously. I don’t know who keeps telling her that she’s funny, she’s not. I don’t know who keeps telling her that she’s edgy, she’s not. I don’t know who keeps putting her on television, stop! This is one of  the reasons teens don’t appreciate the intimacy of sex.

3. When I was a kid I suffered from the ugly trifecta: thick glasses, braces, and freckles. I remember when I was about 15 years old a guy actually said to me “Someday you’re going to be irresistible.” I wanted to throat punch him. After nearly 5 years in braces and promises of all sorts of good things, my parents bought me contact lenses and I came into my own. But those braces were hard. And they hurt. That’s why I find it so mind boggling that there are people who’re wearing fake braces. Apparently, fake braces are all the rage in Asia and kids are dying from them. Black market braces I can’t believe I just typed that cost about $100 and can contain lead. Some teens are even putting them on themselves and then choking on the pieces when they come lose and slide down their throats. Hey, teens, you know what’s really cool and fashionable? Sending me your $100!

4. Another college student has nearly died because of hazing. deep sigh How many stories are we going to read like this before students get it through their heads that being whipped with a paddle, drinking as much alcohol as quickly as possible, or any of the other stupid stuff they do is not the way to acceptance? Of course, the parents are planning to sue the school because they didn’t watch their kid close enough; but my question is, Mom and Dad, what’re you planning to do to your kid? When are parents going to make their kids take a little responsibility for the dumb things they do? Theoretically, your kid is an adult meaning they’re supposed to be making smart decisions, and on some level they have to know that hurting themselves to join a sorority or a fraternity is ridiculous.

So what had you scratchin’ your head this week?

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  • YUMMommy

    When it comes to this hazing thing, I think that these parents need to realize that their kids are adults. Colleges don’t issue out tracking devices and hidden cameras because it goes without saying that if your child is mature enough to attend college, then he or she should be mature enough to decide right from wrong. And of course, we all know hazing is wrong. Teens now days will knowingly and willingly sacrifice their health and let others inflict bodily harm to them just for the sake of fitting in and being part of the cool crowd.

    It’s our jobs as parents to reinforce that being part of the cool crowd is overrated and that life is too precious to be played with. Suing the school isn’t really going to do much but increase tuition prices so they can recoup that money they had to pay out and force them to cut out extracurricular activities which will lead to kids getting into other stuff at other colleges nearby. If anything, there needs to be stricter punishment for the actual hazers.

    And just hearing about how that young girl’s rape was covered up with the help of so-called responsible adults makes me sick! Can’t believe the world we live in sometimes. Everybody seems to be losing it these days.

  • LisaBrownDesign

    I’m so saddened by the Ohio gang rape. Being from Ohio myself, local stories always have a big impact on me. I don’t watch the news, so I don’t know what is out there, but I did stumble across a video of one of the students talking about the rape. It’s sad, disgusting, and beyond words. :(

    And, you’re SO right about Kathy Griffin. I think she’s awful.

    For hazing, I’m proud to have never been a sorority girl. I thought it silly to “buy friends” and still do. I think part of the problem might be with just parents in general not teaching their kids how to reason & think.

    I hear parents all the time, “Do this. Don’t do that. Go here. Eat this. Why did you go there?” it it no wonder they rebel in college?

    I know my kids are young still, but I’m trying to tech them to make decisions. (Much to the dismay of my family, who seriously think it’s terrible!) I don’t often command them to do things, but rather ask them if they would like to – and, hopefully, teaching them do make proper decisions in the process. My goal is not to train them to have proper behavior, but to have them learn to make decisions that lead to proper behavior… if that makes any sense.

    EX: “Don’t jump off the chair.” becomes “Is that a good decision? Do you think you might get hurt?”

    PS – I like the new photo!

  • Whitney

    I know you wish you could thank the guy now, but those words did sting…I know. I agree with you on the athletes, they are put on pedestals and forget they too can get into trouble. I have two cousins that play in the NFL and they were not the best college students. They didn’t do anything like rape, but they did have run ins with females. Kathy Griffin must know someone in the industry or has a relative, that’s got to be the situation because she is terrible, tacky and not funny. I remember when my sister was raped in 1986, she wouldn’t call the police and took that to her grave. We cried and I begged her to let me call the police, but she wouldn’t let me. Ok, might need a little something for my coffee….

  • Ellen Stewart Seaman

    Every once in a while Kathy G. is funny, but 99.99% of the time she’s just mean or gross. I think if she stuck to more every day humor, I’d find her hilarious. But she relies on inappropriate to get an audience.

    I had braces for 4.5 years, and my middle teeth are now zig zagging again. I would go for braces all over again, but now they’re not covered by my insurance as I’m too old. That’s peculiar to me. It would seem that having straighter teeth would be of dental health benefit at any age.

    As for attitudes of those popular athletes…I’ve been reading lately, just by chance, of some alarming behaviors and attitudes coming from the Roloff family (Little People, Big World). Just like when the Jon and Kate crumbs hit the fan, it just made me sad. None of these people are meant to be role models, but whenever you hit the big time (even if it’s big time in your own small town), you ARE responsible for being kind and respectful to all. Why is it the opposite is happening?

    (I always feel so rambling when I write these comments, I guess I’m trying to cut short what could be a post in itself!)

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