Neutral Boho {In the Closet}

For the past year or so I’ve been posting a fashion post of some sort on Wednesdays, but I’ve never really addressed why I decided that this is something that I wanted to do consistently. So I like that Kelly at Kiwi Women’s Style decided to make this the topic for this week’s Wardrobe Wednesday.

Gray Cardi White Tee Brown Skirt {Living Outside the Stacks}

Like many of you, when I first started participating in these weekly linkups, I was a stay~at~home wife and mom who rarely felt the need to dress in anything more than comfy sweats and a stolen borrowed tee. On the rare occasions when I did leave the house, I would go all “Models, Inc.” as the hubs likes to say. The weeks of sweats with the few breaks of dress started to take a toll on my self~esteem. I started to feel like nothing… Like I didn’t matter. Or worse, that I was invisible. Crazy how much putting on clothes can influence the way one feels, huh? And, yeah, it’s easy to say Why didn’t you just get dressed every morning then? But it’s hard to get dressed just to sit around the house, ya know? I’m telling you, Abby at Dear Abbyleigh hit the nail on the head when she said “dress for the day you’re having and not the one that’s having you.”

Then I discovered Lindsey’s What I Wore Wednesday posts on The Pleated Poppy and I was stunned to realize there were other women out there who felt the same way I was feeling. It was great to be a part of a community of women who were sharing similar experiences. As time progressed and I started reading beyond the style posts, I found women who offered advice on moving through the various life stages. This connection became crucial to helping me through a tough time {I was unemployed for what felt like forever and my children were at that stage where they only needed me for taxi and ATM purposes, etc}. Life was hard.

Gray Cardi White Tee Brown Skirt {Living Outside the Stacks}

Gray Cardi & Socks ~ Target

White Tee ~ Dollar General

Necklace ~ The River Runs Thru It Antique Shoppe

Belt & Skirt ~ Thrifted

Boots ~ Payless

Reading the comments from different bloggers has helped me to embrace my quirky style and try new things… Who knew I was a lover of skirts? And, omg, if it weren’t for these weekly linkups I never would have discovered the joys of thrifting. I also wouldn’t have found so many dear friends whose blogs I enjoy reading on a daily basis.

So why do you participate in the weekly fashion linkups?

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  • Joann

    I love the outfit! It’s so pretty. I know just what you are talking about. I work from home now after many years of dressing up to go to work. Most of the time I think it’s great that I just get to throw on some jeans, but sometimes I get sick of myself! I need to get dressed up a little and get out! Jo :)

    • DaenelT

      My husband threatened to hold a bonfire with my sweats. It was really bad. On a related note, when we moved I did notice a lot of my comfy cozies went “missing”. ;-)

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  • Lois Achord Houston

    I absolutely love your Wednesday fashion posts. You inspire me to step outside my usual attire and try something new. Stop by my blog tomorrow – there’s an homage to you! :)

    • DaenelT

      Read it and it made me smile. Thank you!!!

  • HollyM

    We are so the Cardigan Twins! In fact, I have that one. Me likes Target.

    As usual, you’re adorable: fun and flirty. I love the necklace (it probably wouldn’t surprise you to know that I have a similar one?) and the youthful vibe. Who wants to act their age? Not me!

    As for thrifting, I’ll have to give it another try. Goodwill stores generally have an odor I can’t get past to really take a good look, and I haven’t seen much of anything else (in other stores, in my sizes) that didn’t look like a bad 80s or 90s signature piece.
    BUT I almost never buy at full retail. I’m a Marshall’s and Ross fan, big time. I just scored two new cardies at Marshall’s last weekend; original prices were $79 a cardi. As if, right? I’d much rather save $60 on each one by shopping discount.
    And, yeah, I did have to plan excursions outside my home to get myself out of my PJs and stretch pants when I wasn’t working. BTW, you were an inspiration on many days.

    • DaenelT

      OK, that’s it! We’re sisters from another mother and father. LOL that is too funny. I could live in Target cardis; they’re just so cute.

      Like you, I just can’t see paying $80 for a cardi. Seriously, who are those people? But on sale? Or thrifted? Yes, please.

      I’ll admit there are times when I’ve gone into our thrift store and there has been an odor. But I’ve noticed that they’re doing a better job with maintenance. Some items even look and smell freshly laundered (I do still rewash everything),

      The last sentence made me smile

  • Jessica Cobb

    I am in love with those boots…great outfit!

    • DaenelT

      Those boots are pretty cool. :-)

  • Abby Barnhart

    i love this reflection on what we’re doing on wednesdays. so glad to have you along.

    • DaenelT

      Thank you, Abby.

  • Jennae Petersen

    I need to write a post like this too. My outfit posts probably seemed like they came from out of nowhere for people who read my blogs before. My experience is really similar to yours, and I’m so glad you chose to share it!

    I love that you own your style, and skirts look fabulous on you! You know what works and how you want to look, and I’m always excited to see how you combine different pieces and colors :)

    • DaenelT

      Thank you, Jennae. I think this whole thing has been a journey of self discovery. I tend to be very critical of myself, so this has made me see myself and appreciate my body for what it is. Not everything is a hit but I’m having fun trying.

  • chandra

    I love participating in linkups because of the sense of community and support. The blog world can be a bit crazy, but it’s nice to meetup with like-minded women who don’t have a ton of money to spend on clothes and just want to look(and feel good) about themselves. And of course, I got to meet you;) and share in this journey of self discovery and thrift! enjoy your day pretty lady…love this cute boho look on you;)

    • DaenelT

      You are so right about the craziness of the blog world. I like Wednesdays because I know it’s the one day when everyone is going to be nice and supportive.

      And, yes, meeting you (and following your wedding planning and wedding) has been such a joy!

  • Kelly @ Kiwi Womens Style

    This is such a lovely post – the part about moving through stages in our life and connecting to a wonderful group of ladies spoke to me. Thanks so much Daenel for linking up with WW!

    • DaenelT

      Thank you, Kelly. The prompt was a great one.

  • Sarah

    Such a gorgeous outfit, but what I really love is your writing style and the feeling in your words. You look stunning in this outfit and I would personally love to wear everything you have on! I’m going to have to get out my autumn boots soon & put my twinkle toes away!

    Particularly liked the quote you shared, ‘Abby at Dear Abbyleigh hit the nail on the head when she said “dress for the day you’re having and not the one that’s having you”

    • DaenelT

      Thank you, Sarah. I do love these weekly posts; seeing how other ladies are putting things together is both fun and inspirational. I truly believe that our outward appearance affects how we feel on the inside.

  • creole wisdom

    Cool! That outfit is darling. I feel like it’s hard to be motivated about dressing well, but it’s true, we all feel better when we do. I am grateful that my job requires me to be somewhat put together- otherwise I am all about the yoga pants and t-shirt :)

    • DaenelT

      I know, it’s so easy to slip in to the world of comfy cozies. If I’m off work for more than 2 days I have to shake myself out of it. Having a weekly accountability post helps a lot.

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