26th Nov2014

Happy Thanksgiving!

by Daenel

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Hi! I hope you’re having a very Happy Thanksgiving! Normally on Thursdays I host Coffee Talk where I talk about pop culture, things I see in the news, answer random questions, etc. But since it’s Thanksgiving, I thought I’d host a special Thanksgiving Edition of Coffee Talk and share what I’m thankful for. I hope you’ll take the time to watch the video and share some of the things you’re thankful for in the comments below.

 

Happiness to you and yours,

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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13th Nov2014

Coffee Talk: An Interesting Fact About Me

by Daenel

I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Today I’m telling you an interesting fact about me that people would be surprised to know. What do you think it is? Did I perform in a circus? Do I have a secret talent? Watch the video and find out!

Now it’s your turn, tell me something about you that people would be surprised to know.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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06th Nov2014

Coffee Talk: Bible Study Suggestions and Squeekerz

by Daenel

I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

Last week, I asked for questions and I received two:

  1. Could I suggest some bible studies
  2. Can I show Squeekerz

Well, here’s a list of the bible studies that I talked about in the video:

  • Women’s Bible Cafe ~ nondenominational bible study group for women. They also offer monthly online book groups.
  • Bible Gateway ~ hosting a bible study called “How to Understand the Bible”. There are also reading plans.
  • She Reads Truth ~ they offer a variety of devotionals and bible study plans.
  • True Woman ~ teachings on the biblical principals of womanhood

And for all things Squeekerz, click here and here.

Squeekerz {Living Outside the Stacks}

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}I decided to make this a little bit more interactive. Do you have questions for me? If so, leave them in the comments below and we’ll talk about them next Thursday.

If you’d like to see me on YouTube, click here and hit the subscribe button!

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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30th Oct2014

Coffee Talk: About Me, Halloween, and a Zombie Apocalypse Plan

by Daenel

I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

Here are the links to some of the things that I talked about:

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}I decided to make this a little bit more interactive. Do you have questions for me? If so, leave them in the comments below and we’ll talk about them next Thursday.

If you’d like to subscribe to see me on YouTube, click here and hit the subscribe button!

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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09th Oct2014

Coffee Talk: Sickness, Faith, and How to Deal with the Police

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. Can we talk about the Ebola situation? Part of me thinks it’s another manufactured epidemic to keep the focus off the “real” issues, but another part of me is like, ummmm, why haven’t we stopped people from returning to this country who’ve been in one of these stricken countries? And don’t tell me we can’t just turn people away. Uh, yeah, we can. Seriously, have you people never seen Rise of the Planet of the Apes? It all starts with one cough. I mean, Thomas Eric Duncan has died. Spain just killed that nurse’s dog because of Ebola. And now a sheriff’s deputy is under observation… Yet the authorities keep saying that the virus is not easily transmittable. Methinks the people in charge have no idea what they’re talking about…

2. The family and I went to see Left Behind over the weekend. If you saw the original, stick with that version. I’m not sure what message the producers/actors/writers were trying to get out but the message of Christ’s redemptive love was not it. There were 3 “Christians” in the movie:

  1. the witness at the airport who was openly hostile and had an attitude from the jump
  2. Irene who was labeled as “crazy” by her family and didn’t seem to have any real purpose except to serve as the crazy family member that everyone talks about
  3. Pastor Bruce who preached the word but didn’t live the word

I think more focus should have been placed on why the Rapture happened and the events ~ the panic ~ that ensued after millions of people disappeared. Instead what we got was a plane based “thriller” with a Christian label. It takes more than mentioning Christ’s name a few times and showing a Bible for a movie to be Christian.

There was absolutely no doctrine to this movie. At all.

And Nicolas Cage? Really?

3. I know I’ve discussed this before, but when the police pull you over {whether you feel you have done anything wrong or not} you need to pull over and comply with their requests. And before anybody says I don’t know what it’s like to be pulled over and scared, I do. I have been pulled over and questioned for no reason. I have been followed through stores. I’ve been falsely accusedI understand the fear. And in each situation I complied with the officers’ requests and dealt with {their} wrongdoings at a later time when things had de~escalated, which is why I’m able to sit here and type what I’m about to type. If you get pulled over, if the police tell you to stop, just do it. Even if you feel it’s an unwarranted stop, don’t get combative, don’t argue, just do what the officer says and then fix the situation later. No matter how you feel, the police are in the position of power and the more you question, the more you refuse to comply, the greater the chances of you getting hurt. After the police have finished with you, make note of everything that happened and then go to the police station to file a report or talk to a lawyer but DO NOT TRY TO HANDLE YOUR BUSINESS ON THE STREET. It will not end well for you. Y’all, I’m just tired of people getting shot, tased, beaten up, etc.

Talk to me, what’s got you scratching your head?

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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30th Sep2014

Coffee Talk: Passenger Shaming, Fence Jumping, and Purple Streaks

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. Do you fly? Have you ever flown with any of these types of passengers? If not, consider yourself lucky. Apparently being a butt on an airplane is so much a thing now that a flight attendant launched a site called Passenger Shaming to out airborne evil doers. Normally, I’d be all for protecting people’s personal spaces, habits, identities, etc. but when you see the kind of vileness that is happening on some flights, I say put the offender’s photo on a billboard, write his or her name on a “no fly list”, make that nastiness go viral. Seriously, who are these people and how do we go about getting their parents’ addresses so they can see exactly what they raised?

Or, better yet, how about if some news organization {Jesse Watters from “Watters’ World” I’m looking at you} tracks one of these yahoos down and questions them on TV about their bad behavior?

2. So, um, the White House fence jumper apparently got all. the. way. into. the White House. Duuude, where was the Secret Service? Shouldn’t someone have stopped this guy way before he jumped the fence or very soon thereafter? What happened to the Secret Service Agents who used to vow to take one for the President? Is he now on his own? And why why why did initial reports laud the Secret Service for using restraint during this whole event? Seriously, they should’ve released the hounds. That’s one of those cases of shoot first and ask questions later.

3. Last night I tried to add purple streaks to my hair. It didn’t work. I used Garnier Color Styler Intense Wash~Out in Purple Mania. I should’ve known when it said that you didn’t have to rinse it out that something hinky was going on. It’s basically liquid chalk and left my hair feeling dry, brittle, and matted. I decided to leave it be for the night and see how it looked this morning after a “real” styling. Not much better. Tonight I’ll be washing it out {it says it lasts about 2~3 shampoos}. Even if it doesn’t all come out, I hope the ratty feel will be gone. Moral of the story? Don’t take the cheap way out. If you want to play with color, go big or go home. In other words, dye it!

Talk to me, what’s got you scratching your head?

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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23rd Sep2014

Coffee Talk: Let’s Talk about Jada

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. The Hoff and The Biebs shot a music video together? weeps

2. And in the tasteless and crass department, did you see the news reporter who quit her job. On air. By using the “F” word. Seriously? I know we’ve all been there. We’ve all had a day, a week, a month at our jobs where we’ve just wanted to walk in, tell everyone off, and leave in an epic fashion but most of us know better. And, really? Did she quit over marijuana?

3. Did you watch Gotham last night? All I can say is Jada Pinkett~Smith is definitely the break out star. She’s all kinds of bat guano crazy. Who else can beat a man in the pouring rain and then tell her manservant to make sure her hair doesn’t get frizzy? I can’t wait to see what else she does… On a side note, it’s so fun to see the beginnings of some familiar characters.

Talk to me, what’s got you scratching your head?

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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16th Sep2014

Coffee Talk: Common Sense, Television, Dog Fur, and Coffee, of course

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Wow, it’s been a long time since we’ve chatted. How’ve you been? I’ve been OK. Just busy with, well, life… You know how that is, right?

Anyway, I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. Daniele Watts, an African American actress who was in the movie “Django Unchained” is accusing Los Angeles police of racism for cuffing her while responding to complaint. The actress says that she and her boyfriend were targeted because she’s black and her boyfriend is white. I read the story and listened to her interview on CNN yesterday morning and I’m gonna to have call nonsense. Someone reported that a couple was engaged in a sex act in a Mercedes; she admits that she and her boyfriend were “making out” but that it had ceased by the time the cops arrived. In the video, you can hear the cop ask for her ID several times and you can hear her refusing several times. She then throws out the race card, the actor card, and the “it’s my right to make out with my boyfriend” card as excuses for why she won’t comply with the officer’s request. insert eye roll here

Girlfriend, had you just followed your boyfriend’s lead and given the officer your ID, you never would’ve been cuffed and detained. As a general rule, when the cops ask you to stop and put your hands up, you should just do it. If they ask for your ID, give it to them. I’ve been followed, profiled, pulled over, etc. and every time, I’ve complied with the requests. Even when I knew the stop was unjustified. I’m looking at you, Mr. Police Officer who pulled me over and asked me why my kids were in the car with me instead of at school. It’s just easier. Yes, it’s frustrating. Yes, I’ve cried. But I’ve never ended up in cuffs or face down in the asphalt.

Here’s the deal, there are enough people who’re dealing with genuine race based discrimination out there that people don’t need to make things up or bring crap on themselves… A whole lot of Jesus and a little bit of common sense, people, that’s all it requires to get through this life.

2. I’ve stopped watching Extant and Under the Dome. Both shows had me wondering what the heck is going on here? And not in a good way either. But Hell on Wheels? If you are not watching that show, stop everything you’re doing and catch up. Then get back at me so we can discuss Sunday’s episode. Oh. Em. Gee. Anson Mount and Common had me all in my feelings.

3. You guys, I love Squeekerz. Goodness knows, I love that dog. I cried right along with the kids when he ran away. And I cried even harder when he came back with a pregnant cat. But there is no way in the world, I’m going to walk around with a purse made out of his fur. Yep, someone is making dog fur purses. And people are buying them. The rational side of me says this is no different than carrying a leather or cowhide bag but there’s another part of me that goes ewwwww…. But I will say one thing, they are GORGEOUS!!!! shudder

4. Coffee served in an ice cream cone? Yes, please.

Talk to me, what’s got you scratching your head?

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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10th Jul2014

Coffee Talk: Borders, Love & Forgiveness, and Isolation

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. A coworker and I were talking about the border issue yesterday and I’ve come to the conclusion that there is no right answer. I can’t imagine being in a place that I’m so desperate that I would send my child to a foreign country without me. For goodness sake, three of my children are headed off to college this fall ~ two of them will be within 20 minutes of my house ~ and I’m a nervous wreck. I know people are calling on these children to be returned to their home countries, but how do we do that? Do we just put them on a plane, dump them at the airport, and hope their families come to claim them? And if they stay, where do they stay? Do they get adopted out? Do they end up in foster care or orphanages? What if they end up in the hands of unsavory people? Protective services can barely keep up with the American children who are in the system, add in thousands more who came out of no where and oh em gee

I agree with those who say something needs to be done to protect the borders. And, lest you think I’m a racist or anything else, every nation should protect its borders. Seriously, you protect your home, don’t you? I don’t know if the answer is a fence, more border agents {but, um, that would solve some of the unemployment issues, especially for service members who’re returning to the States and looking for jobs}, or what but this needs to be fixed. Do you have any thoughts?

2. This article from Christianity Today is probably one of the most honest pieces I’ve ever read about how it feels to have a sex offender in the family. There are so many conflicting emotions: love/hate, loyalty/repulsion, happiness/sadness… And then there are the times when there’s the overwhelming need to lash out and make that person hurt and then you remember, you’re called to forgive as Christ forgave you… But how do you forget?

3. I’ve often said that I should live in a Lysol encased bubble. This right here confirms it.

What’s got you scratching your head this week?

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}

 

 

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02nd Jun2014

Coffee Talk: Memories, Delusions, Apes, and More

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. I love this video: “The heart remembers….”. Have your Kleenex handy.

2. Gwyneth Paltrow has decided that angering working moms is, ahem, child’s play; now she’s going after the military. In her latest woe~is~me~the~life~of~a~celeb~is~so~hard rant, she compared I won’t point out how absolutely ludicrous Ms. Paltrow’s comparison is because I think SFC. Bryan Sikes, a Green Beret, did it best here. Nor will I tell her to keep her opinions to herself, because it’s people like SFC Sikes and our other men and women in uniform who defend the rights of idiots to become internet fodder.

3. I’ve been waiting for the sequel to Rise of the Planet of the Apes since the last cough during the closing credits in 2011…

I’ve been a fan of Planet of the Apes since I was a kid. It all goes back to my intense love for monkeys {yes, I know monkeys and apes are not the same thing, but let me have my moment…}.

4. Being without a cell phone is not fun. I broke mine over the weekend and I seriously feel as if I’m missing a limb. Well, maybe not quite that serious, but close enough. I really hadn’t realized how dependent I’d become on that little device until now. It stores my phone numbers, my pictures, my health info… It keeps tracks of how many calories I’ve eaten and how many I need to burn off. It’s my lifeline to my family. When I get my new one, I’m going to love it and squeeze it and call it Fred.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

Daenel T

06th Feb2014

Coffee Talk: Celebs in the News {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. Justin Bieber. smh There is so much wrong with this guy right now that I don’t even know where to begin… Actually, yeah, I do. Let’s stop referring to him as a “kid who’s flexing his muscles”. I’m looking at every one of you celeb defenders out there. He is not a kid, he’s a grown man. A grown man, who’s making some very stupid {yes, stupid} decisions. If he were an average American Canadian guy, he’d be sitting behind bars right now. The justice system, handlers, and press need to stop slapping these young celebs on the wrists and poo pooing their behavior and make them suffer some real consequences for their actions. Seriously, have we learned nothing from the untimely deaths of other celebs who went unpunished?

2. Just look at Philip Seymour Hoffman. He was one of the biggest character actors around and he died with a needle sticking out of his arm. Yes, I know addiction is real and it’s not just something you “get over”, but what I am saying is that’s where Mr. Bieber is headed if someone doesn’t intervene soon.

3. And not that either of these two folks should qualify as celebrities, but DMX is supposed to be fighting George Zimmerman in an upcoming online pay~per~view match. I don’t know who’s the most desperate to stay relevant here: DMX who keeps having to fight drug charges or Zimmerman who keeps having to fight gun charges. Either way, I’m hissing at this whole thing…

4. So Martin Luther King, Jr.’s children are suing each other* over their father’s Nobel Peace Prize and family bible. This tears me up inside… Bernice King is being sued by her brothers, Martin Luther King III and Dexter, because she won’t turn over the items to them because she believes they’re going to sell them and they’re complaining that they’re unsafe in her hands. Seriously, guys, you can’t work this out amongst yourselves?

*This is not the first time the King Kids have taken each other to court over their father’s legacy, it seems like every few years they tend to gang up on one another, just trifling and sad.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

Daenel T

23rd Jan2014

Coffee Talk: Parenting, TV Style {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. Kate Gosselin had her twins on the Today Show so they could tell everyone how normal their lives are… First lesson in leadership: if you have to tell people you’re the boss, you’re not. That works for parenting and letting the world know that you’re “normal”. Parading the kids on TV every few years is not indicative of a “normal” household, it’s the sign of a parent who can’t understand why her family imploded in the first place and refuses to see that maybe she is part of the problem. The girls looked awkward and uncomfortable during the interview and rarely spoke up… I will acknowledge that most 13~year~old teens are awkward and uncomfortable and answer questions with grunts and sighs… But that should’ve been a sign to Kate that they {to include herself} should’ve been elsewhere, like at home.

2. And speaking of parents, who was your favorite TV dad? Mine was Bill Cosby from the Cosby Show. Hands down. I loved the way he interacted with his kids. And, omg, his love for Clair set the standard for how I wanted to be treated in my marriage. It also didn’t hurt that people kept telling me how much I favored Lisa Bonet… I tried desperately to imitate her on and off screen funky style but no one could nail it quite like she did. Anyway, Dr. Cosby is supposed to be debuting a new sitcom on NBC. I really hope this is true. I’m so looking for something fun and educational that doesn’t have the parents looking like idiots or the kids acting like they need a good butt whupping. Right now, my favorite comedy has to be The Middle. If you’re not watching it, you really need to rethink your television priorities.

3. Well, since it seems today’s theme is televison, let’s continue with that streak… I don’t watch the Real House Wives of anything but when I heard that one of those women thought the Underground Railroad was a real train I about lost my mind. And then I realized, it’s not her fault:

  • schools are set up now so that teachers are teaching for tests instead of teaching for information literacy {this is a generalization and not at all inclusive}
  • teachers are having to teach sex ed, manners, etc., things that should be taught at home
  • we live in a sound bite generation, people don’t want to read to learn, they just want to be entertained
  • most of today’s generation is so far removed from that part of history that they’ve lost the emotional connection to that part of our past

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

Daenel T

09th Jan2014

Coffee Talk: Let the Crazy Flag Wave {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. What is up with Dennis Rodman? He’s running around with that lunatic in North Korea, talking about Kim Jong Un is “a good guy”… And, um, OK, his singing “Happy Birthday” to little Kim totally skeeved me. It was so breathy and Marilyn Monroe~esque. Word to Dennis: Please don’t be that guy on TV talking about “He seemed so normal. I didn’t realize he had bodies buried in his backyard.”

2. Cursing toddlers are not funny. Posting videos of cursing toddlers is not “educational”, even if it is posted by the Omaha Police Union. Let me make a couple of points here:

To parents:

  • teaching your toddler to curse is never acceptable
  • as a parent, you should want your child to do better, to be better…that can only be done through proper education

To police:

  • if you really want to educate parents, show videos of parents who are doing it right
  • encourage kids who are doing well by rewarding or honoring them

3. Is it just me or does “Polar Vortex” sound like some made up weather calamity on the SyFy channel? I just kept imagining some scientist going “Mr. President, we’re running out of time. We have got to evacuate every American from the planet now. It’s a Polar Vortex.” I’ve got jokes. But, y’all, it has been cold. And, yes, I know it’s winter.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

Daenel T

02nd Jan2014

Coffee Talk: It’s All About Respect {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. First and foremost, Happy New Year! Prepare for about a week of this because, you know, it’s the obligatory thing to do to remind us all that it is now 2014. Which means we made it! Yay! Others haven’t been quite so blessed

2. Already in 2014, we’ve lost two actors who left lasting impressions on my childhood: James Avery, “Uncle Phil” from Fresh Prince of Bel Air, and Juanita Moore, “Annie Johnson” from Imitation of Life. James Avery always appeared to be a gentle giant. I loved his patient yet firm ways when it came to dealing with Will.

My favorite episode was when Will’s father came back and then abandoned him and Will stood there crying: “Why doesn’t he want me?” There was so much tension, love, and hurt in that scene. James Avery reached out and hugged Will and I just knew there were millions of kids out there wondering why their parents didn’t want them. That episode spoke to the hearts of so many people who’ve been abandoned by the ones who should’ve care the most for them and James Avery just filled the gap. I mean that big ol’ man just reached through the TV and embraced everyone and said “I’m here”.  Apparently, I have some abandonment issues I need to deal with

And, Juanita Moore, oh man… She broke my heart in that movie. To me, she just epitomized grace under pressure. She handled everything with such dignity. She didn’t try to change the world through the bully pulpit, instead she demonstrated small kindnesses to people. And when her daughter fell on her casket… Sorry, I get choked up every time… The song from Annie’s funeral was played at my father’s funeral. There’s a personal connection.

3. The hubs and I had our first disagreement of 2014. It was over Beyonce. I said she was out of line to use the recordings from the Challenger explosion for her new song and he said there are bigger issues to be concerned with when it comes to free speech. I won’t make his argument for him because I can’t. I disagree with him. I just think there are some things that are sacrosanct and that is one of them. To me that is tantamount to taking the last call from someone who died on 9/11 and sampling it. You just don’t do it. Especially for a song that isn’t even related to the issue at hand. I haven’t listened to the song but I heard it’s about a break up. Yeah, no, that’s just not right.

Daenel T

12th Dec2013

Coffee Talk: Dead Rodents Society, Selfies, and When In Rome… {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Soooo, it’s been a minute since we’ve had one of these little chats, so let me remind you what Coffee Talk is all about…

Coffee Talk  {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. When I was about 11 years old, my stepfather decided to teach my sisters and me how to play chess. These were the pre~cell~phone~text~your~family~or~leave~them~a~message~on~Facebook~if~you~want~to~know~how~they’re~doing days. We were, by no stretch of the imagination, chess prodigies but we enjoyed the game.

As a parting gift, our church gave my parents a marble chess set, complete with carved wooden chairs and a matching table. I fell in love with this chess set and I told my parents that I’d be taking it with me when I moved out. Much to my surprise delight, my parents agreed.

I’ve had this chess set with me for almost 20 years now. It’s survived several moves, curious little fingers, and one determined termite.

Anyway, I said all of that to say this: What the what? A chess set made from taxidermy mice? Yikes!

2. I love a good selfie. Goodness knows, I do. But a memorial service/funeral is not the appropriate time nor place, Mr. President. For the record, I don’t believe FLOTUS was peeved about the pic as news outlets would suggest. I think it was a case of a photographer catching her during a solemn moment and people {mis}interpreting her expression.

3. I know I’ve talked about this before but people are not paying attention. You cannot go over to a foreign country, especially, one in the Middle East and expect that you will have the same freedoms there that you enjoy in the United States of America. The U.S. Constitution does not extend to foreign soil unless you are on a military installation or at an embassy.

Another American has landed in jail for posting a parody video in Abu Dhabi. deep sigh Think, people, when we have visitors to our country, we expect them to follow the norms of our nation, the same is expected of you. Unless the norms involve something weird like performing a line dance to a Miley Cyrus song with your tongue hanging out.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?
Daenel T

28th Oct2013

Coffee Talk: Paternity Tests, Conrad Murray, and the Zombie Apocalypse {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk  {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. Why? Why? Why is there a show on TV called “Paternity Court”? If you are unsure of the paternity of your child, why on Earth would you go on national TV to find out? Why not take care of that at home and try to maintain the dignity and respect of your child, if you have none for yourself? And while I’m talking about this… People, when you’re responding to a question, do not keep saying: “Know what I’m saying?” No, I don’t know what you’re saying. Stop. Think. Now speak. That advice is also for people who use “Like” when speaking.

2. Conrad Murray was released from prison this morning. Y’all remember him, right? He’s the doctor who went to jail for killing Michael Jackson. Some people are upset because he only served 2 years of his 4 year sentence. I don’t really have a problem with this. I think Michael Jackson is just as responsible for his death as Murray is. What I do have a problem with is the possibility of Murray getting his medical license reinstated. This is a man who broke his oath to do no harm; he should never be put in a position where he can use his medical know~how to hurt or kill another person.

3. My family and I are serious fans of The Walking Dead. As in we all gather in the family room to watch the show together. We come up with different scenarios, we question the possibility and freakiness of zombie babies, and, of course, we talk about what we’d do to survive. The editors at Bon Appétit have taken this discussion to a fun new level with “10 Foods We’re Stockpiling for a {Zombie} Apocalypse“. So I started thinking, what would I want to hoard? Coffee, naturally. Water, is a given. And, finally, beans. Beans can keep and they are high in fiber and protein.

What would you stockpile?

Daenel T

13th Oct2013

Coffee Talk: Parents, Protect Your Children {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

When I read the news that the two~year~old son of Viking’s running back, Adrian Peterson, died, my heart broke. I sat at my desk and fought back the tears, not just for Peterson and his family but for every child who has been hurt by or lost their lives to abuse. Peterson’s son died at the hands of his ex’s boyfriend. That man beat that sweet little baby to death. Someone that the mother was dating, someone that she should have trusted, murdered her baby…

This highlights something that too many mothers {and fathers} seem to forget: your child is your first priority. You cannot leave your child with just anyone and assume the child will be safe. When it comes to your baby, you can never be too careful. And if you know that your boyfriend or girlfriend is hurting your child and you do nothing, you are just as guilty as the person swinging his or her fist. Even more so, in my opinion.

You see, that person has no obligation to your child {other than to treat him or her humanely because that’s what civilized people do} but you, Mom or Dad, you have the obligation to protect your child at all costs. Even if it means walking away from a relationship and putting your life on hold until your child is old enough to care for him/herself.

When I was a single mom, I knew my life was no longer my own. My daughter’s health and happiness rested with me and my health and happiness rested with her. If she were hurt or in danger, how could I be happy and secure? Once I married and had more children, this same sense of responsibility extended to my other children and continues to this day, even though my children are now teenagers. I was blessed to marry a man who loved my daughter as his own, and has never distinguished between her and his biological children and I thank God for that.

As my children got older, I was able to take back my life and focus on my own happiness, but, lemme tell you, the need/desire/instinct to protect my babies still rests within me. And more parents need to take that responsibility seriously.

I write this as a survivor of abuse, a mother, and someone who knows what it’s like to try to date while raising a child on her own. It’s hard and, at times, it can be lonely, but when you chose to become a parent, you took a blood oath that you would protect your child with your very life. Like my aunt told me years ago, “My children are blood, everyone else is just a close friend of the family. They can be replaced.”

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?


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06th Oct2013

Coffee Talk: Personal Responsibility {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. So who wasn’t surprised that AEG was found not liable in Michael Jackson’s death? raises both hands I’m not really even certain why this case went to trial, Michael Jackson was a grown man and he made the choice to take drugs… Personal responsibility, people. Now, that being said, I think Dr. Conrad Murray was guilty because he chose to give Michael the drugs, which violated all sorts of laws, moral and ethical codes, and common sense.

2. Alright, let’s talk gun control. Guns do not kill people, people kill people. By tightening gun control laws, you’re only ensuring that law abiding folks will be unable to protect themselves when law breaking folks are bent on doing harm.

3. And, hey, come the next election cycle, how about if we all remember who’s currently in D.C. and make sure they’re all kicked out. Seriously, this is no longer about what’s best for the country but about who wins the game of political tug of war.

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30th Sep2013

Coffee Talk: Placenta Prints; Home Decor; Photo Challenge, Maybe {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. Are you pregnant? Do you dig original art? Well, now you can have your placenta turned into a Tree of Life Print. dry heaves Seriously, who looked at their placenta and thought this is totally craft worthy? thoughtful pause I assume the same folks who thought, I’m hungry and this bloody veiny mass looks nomtastic, maybe I’ll have a nibble. I guess having a kid for eighteen years isn’t enough of a souvenir anymore. I don’t get it…

2. Do you change out your home’s accessories with the seasons? Adding Placenta Prints does not count. I never have before but this year, I thought I’d switch things up and bring in more saturated colors. Maybe I’ll post some pictures. I’d be interested in seeing how you’ve decorated your space. Feel free to share your pictures with me on Facebook.

3. Did you know yesterday was National Coffee Day? I celebrated with 2 cups of coffee and an addition to my “I Heart Coffee” stream on flickr. I think next year I’m going to try to do 365 days of coffee. I’m being ambitious. I have yet to succeed at a daily posting. Have you ever tried a daily something? How’d you do with it?

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12th Sep2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. I have a little message for President Vladimir Putin: Yes, America is an exceptional country and we are an exceptional people. We are a nation founded on the concepts of freedom, equality, and hard work. We may not always agree with each other but at least we have the right to say it and believe it without fear of imprisonment or worse. So, thank you, Mr President for expressing your views on our country but understand this, I don’t like it and I don’t agree with it but at least you have the right to say it in this country, something the people in your country don’t enjoy.

2. George Zimmerman has an O.J. Simpson complex. When you get away with murder, you should disappear. Spend your life helping lepers. Feed orphans. Do something other than be a jerk.

3. Miss 16 and I were watching Diff’rent Strokes the other night and, dude, I didn’t realize how many tough topics that show covered: child molestation, drug use, teenage sex, etc. I think we were so much more naive as kids because I didn’t remember any of those episodes until I started watching with my daughter. Crazy.

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