02nd Sep2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. What is going on with kids today? And why are their parents supporting/defending/protecting them? I’m speaking specifically about the teen who shot and killed a baby after attempting to rob his mother and the three teen boys who beat up another boy on a school bus… Parents, if your kids are robbing people, selling drugs, or murdering innocent babies, they are not “good boys”, they are thugs who need to accept responsibility for their behavior. And accepting responsibility begins at home with you, the parents, being parents and disciplining your kids. Why, why, why are these parents on television defending the indefensible? I understand loving your kids unconditionally but that doesn’t mean that you condone their behavior.

2. And while I’m talking about defending the indefensible, when will we as a nation start to put our words into action and take a tougher stance against pedophiles and child molesters? District Judge G. Todd Baugh please pay attention to that name and if you live in Montana, do whatever you can to have him removed from the bench sentenced former teacher Stacey Dean Rambold remember his name and make sure he never gets another job to 30 days in jail after he was convicted of raping a 14~year~old girl who later took her life. Anyone who rapes, molests, or hurts a child should be put in prison with the general population. These people should never see the light of day. And for a judge, who is charged with seeing that justice is served, to give this guy a slap on the wrist for raping a child… He deserves to be removed from the bench and have his pension removed. He is not upholding the law, he’s condoning criminal behavior. There’s something fundamentally wrong with him and anyone who looks at a child and sees them as sexual beings.

3. Do you agree with the U.S. taking action in Syria? I’m kinda iffy on this one. President Assad is accused of gassing his own people last week as part of a brutal campaign to remain in power. While I see this as a humanitarian issue, I don’t understand how this directly impacts the U.S. And I don’t think that we have the I don’t know the right word to enter into another conflict. Lastly, if we’re just doing this as a police action/humanitarian step in, how come we stood by and did nothing while Africans were being slaughtered, raped, maimed, etc during their civil war? How do we determine who deserves to be saved?

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?

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15th Jul2013

Get Bitter or Get Better: Moving Forward after Trayvon {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Get Bitter or Get Better: Moving Forward after Trayvon {Living Outside the Stacks}I, like many people, sat glued to my seat as the verdict was read. Not guilty. Another black boy’s life snuffed out. Not guilty. Black lives are worthless. Not guilty. Skittles and a hoodie can get you murdered. Not guilty. Unless your skin is black.

Whether we agree with the verdict or not, it is what it is. We can’t change that. But we can change where we go from here; we can get bitter or we can get better. Bitterness is easy. All it requires is for us to wallow in self pity, to lay down the victim card, to riot and react with violence, to throw our hands up and stop caring, to look at our young black boys and confirm what society has ingrained in them from the beginning of time: that they’re worthless.

But getting better… Oh, that requires work. Work that begins at home, with parents who love and support each other {even when they’re no longer together}. It requires that parents encourage their children to pick up books and learn to read, write, and speak properly. It requires that parents stop recording their kids “twerking” and start recording them participating in spelling bees and graduating from high school. It requires that parents look at the struggles of the past and determine that their children will be more and do more with their lives.

Getting better requires that we look at our culture that celebrates drugs, the denigration of women, and the glorification of violence and expect more. How can we expect other people to value our lives when we don’t? Where is the outrage when a black child is killed by another black child? When we start to care about ourselves as much as we expect other’s to, then and only then will we see change. We need to show them that we are more than stereotypes and internet memes.

Don’t let Trayvon’s death be in vain. Don’t let the deaths of thousands of others before him be in vain.

Do better. Be better.

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25th Jun2013

That Coffee Life {In the Dark Room}

by Daenel

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever.  And there may be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

I decided to blend #thatcoffeelife with Coffee Talk this week because one of my favorite things to do is talk about current events over coffee. Please feel free to share your opinions, throw in a new topic, or link to your own discussions.

Coffee Talk #thatcoffeelife {Living Outside the Stacks}

1. Paula Deen. That whole situation is a bucket full of crazy with a cup of ohnoshedidn’t on the side. Seriously, how does anyone in the year 2013 think it’s acceptable to want to dress black folks as slaves to serve food at a wedding? scratching my head But I do have a question for Lisa Jackson, the former employee behind the lawsuit, for how long after Paula and Bubba made those racist/sexist/idiotic comments did you continue to work for them? And, even though it’s not something that you’d think that you should have to tell adults, did you ever tell them that their comments were wrong?

One of the first things I learned when I entered the working world is nothing is wrong until you say it’s wrong. If someone says something stupid, you correct them and let them know that it’s wrong, the second time, you follow up with corrective action that will hurt e.g. a formal complaint or a lawsuit if you a formal complaint would not be effective {as the case would be with Deen and her family}.

2. Did you catch any of the opening arguments in the Trayvon Martin case? Can you believe George Zimmerman’s defense attorney thought it would be appropriate to open with a joke? If I were Zimmerman, I would’ve fired him on the spot. Nothing about this case is funny. A child died because of some idiot with a hero complex. Yeah, I said it. Zimmerman stalked and shot Trayvon because he wanted to be a hero.

Zimmerman’s attorney stressed that Trayvon had the opportunity to go home 4 or 5 times before he chose to confront Zimmerman. I would argue that Zimmerman had the opportunity to go home when the dispatcher told him that he didn’t need him {Zimmerman} to follow Trayvon. Instead of backing off, Zimmerman chose to pursue this kid.

3. The family and I went to see World War Z over the weekend. Hated it. I’ve never read the book, so my reaction is totally based on what I saw on the big screen and all I can say is that I should’ve expected nothing less from Mr. Jolie. The whole movie viewed like an hours long propaganda film for globalism. Within the first few minutes of the movie, it was made clear that the U.S. had fallen apart and the only hope for the world is the World Health Organization and the United Nations.

I still believe there is a lot of good in this country. And I’m incredibly proud to be an American. I just wish more people felt that way.

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?

About That Coffee Life…

A few weeks ago, my friend and “baby brother”, Tony Armstrong of Tony Armstrong Photography noticed my morning coffee mugs on Instagram and suggested that I do a photographic series.  I loved the idea! A mug and a story. These weekly posts are a result of his suggestion. I’m honored that fellow coffee lover, writer, and photographer,  Beatrice of inspired by beatrice clay will be joining me every Tuesday morning to share coffee and inspiration. I invite you to follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter as we celebrate That Coffee Life.

If you’d like to join us, simpy take a picture of your cuppa, tell your story, and leave a comment with your link. We’ll be using the hash tag #thatcoffeelife.


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06th May2013

Makes Me Wanna Weep {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stories that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head and asking “What the what?” to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever and make me wonder who has time for that. And there may be a recipe or two thrown in just for fun.

So grab a cup of whatever you fancy and let’s start chatting…

1.  Have you been following the case of Dr. Kermit Gosnell, a Philadelphia abortion doctor who’s on trial for the murder of 4 babies? This doctor {and I use that term loosely because last time I checked, doctors are sworn to do no harm}, is accused of the most heinous crimes against humanity and the case is receiving little to no coverage. You can read a brief history of the story here.

I have so many issues with this story but I’ll hit the top 3 here:

  • When and how often were state inspections done?
  • How come no one who worked with this “doctor” reported him? Was it really all about a paycheck?
  • Why isn’t this story getting front page coverage? Oh, it’s because it’s talking about the heinous murder of babies “fetuses”. If this guy had committed these crimes against an adult or even a “baby”, people would be going after him with pitchforks and fire.

2. A teenage soccer player could be facing charges in the murder of a referee who slipped into a coma and then died after being punched. I’m totally going to blame the soccer player’s parents here ~ their child was obviously not taught to control his anger. Now that the kid’s a teenager, it’s too late. And a family has lost a husband, a father, a son, a brother, a friend…   You can read about the story here.

3. And because I hate to end on a sad note, let’s give it up for a Canadian man who celebrated his birthday by paying off his mom’s mortgage! You can watch the video here. Note to my kids: any time you wanna help your parents out, this is a good way to start.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

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16th Nov2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. I guess judges are getting tired of people doing dumb stuff and making taxpayers for their stupidity, so they’re finding creative ways to punish them. A Cleveland Municipal judge ordered a woman to stand at an intersection holding a sign that read: “Only an idiot would drive on the sidewalk to avoid a school bus.” Yes, you read that right. That woman drove on the sidewalk to pass a bus that was unloading children.  Shaking my head

2. When I first read that some people were so salty over the elections that they filed petitions to secede from the union, I thought it was just another crazy Facebook meme until I read about them on the Washington Post website. Y’all seriously? Let me tell you something about this great country of ours… This is a democracy, the people speak every 4 years. The people chose to re~elect President Obama, so you deal. And in 4 years, when you get another chance at the White House, present a stronger message! Second, this is a free country. No one is holding you hostage. If you don’t like it, leave and go to one of those countries where you’re not free to voice an opinion or pick who governs you. For the record, this would be my opinion regardless of who’s sitting in the White House.

3. I know pregnancy makes you crazy… I once dreamed that ginormous Power Rangers chased me and the hubs into a church. The pink one ripped the roof off the building, picked the hubs up and ate him. But this lady takes crazy pregnant lady to a whole new level: an Arizona woman was so upset when she found out that her husband didn’t vote that she ran over her husband with her SUV. Her fear? That President Obama’s re~election will bring hardship to her family. Oy! I guess in the grand scheme of things, secession makes so much more sense and murder is much easier than divorce.

4. I love a deal. No, I really love a good deal and will share info about a great deal with anyone who’ll listen. But I love spending time with my family even more. And I’m almost positive that other people love deals and spending time with their families just as much as I do.  So why is it that a certain segment of our population is being denied the right to spend time with their families because people have decided that Black Friday deals should begin on Thanksgiving evening? What the heck? Are you seriously telling me that people cannot wait until Friday morning to begin Black Friday shopping? Thanksgiving is supposed to be about spending time with loved ones, not going out and trying to kill yourself to buy a $20 discounted item that no one’s gonna remember 6 months from now but will make repeat appearances on the credit card bill for the next 4 years. Stop the madness!

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

26th Oct2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. Republican politicians, can I tell ya something? You really need to work on your “Hate the sin, love the sinner” message ’cause right now you’re failing miserably at explaining anything that has to do with women and rape.

2. And while I’m on the political, women can handle heated debates, so stop saying that Obama’s and Romney’s sparkless debate was because they’re “courting women voters and women can’t handle conflict.” Ummm, have you ever had contact with a woman? In this century?

3. I hate that saggy pants thing that guys do. It’s so not cool. Especially when the guy is over the age of 20. By that time the guy should have long been able to afford to buy a belt. I actually saw a guy fall while crossing the street because his pants were so saggy. The reason I’m bringing this up is because a lot of cities are trying to pass ordinances to ban saggy pants. While I’m all for ending this horribly tacky trend, I think cops have bigger issues to worry about. Then again, aren’t there already decency laws on the books?

4. Have you seen Brad Pitt’s Chanel No. 5 commercial? What in the world is he talking about? At first I thought it was some sort of PSA. This guy takes himself way too seriously.

4. A New York City police officer was arrested for allegedly plotting to kidnap, rape, kill and eat women. What the what? Here’s the thing, ladies, if you’re driving alone at night and you see flashing lights in your rear mirror, throw on your hazard lights, slow down and do not pull your car over until you’re in a well lit area. You can also dial 911, give them your location and ask for backup. If the cop is legitimate, he will understand. Do not pull your car over on a remote road. Be safe, people are crazy.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

20th Oct2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. It feels like every week there’s a new story about child sex abuse/murder/kidnapping. This week the news centers around the Boy Scouts and their so~called “Pervert Files”. It looks like they had the same policy as the Catholic Church and Penn State when it came to dealing with child predators… Why is it that organizations prefer to protect their reputations rather than protect the children who’ve been entrusted with their care? My honest~to~goodness~no~holds~barred opinion on this subject is that any and everyone who hurts a child should be put to death. No appeal. No languishing on Death Row for years. Just kill them. And anyone who protects or covers up a child sex case should go to prison. For life.

2. A 10~year~old boy with Down Syndrome survived being lost in the woods by cuddling with some pups for warmth. Seriously, folks, if animals know enough to protect our kids, how come humans have a hard time with that concept? Really, these stories about abused kids are irritating the living daylights out of me. I need to move on.

3. Did you watch the season premier of The Walking Dead? Hands down one of my favorite shows. Especially now that Hell On Wheels is on hiatus. The family and I gathered around the TV and watched it together. Even the dogs joined us.

4. This story about Stella Ehrhart made my heart beat with all sorts of nerdy happiness. Every day since the second grade, Stella has dressed as a different historical figure. How seriously fun is that? It also doesn’t hurt that her parents are theatre folks.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

05th Oct2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. Did you watch the debate the other night? I did but that’s not what I want to talk about… What I want to talk about is the people who seem to have a hard time understanding that they cannot use their corporate Twitter accounts to say stupid stuff, it will cost them their jobs. Really, person behind the KitchenAid tweet that read: “Obamas gma even knew it was going 2 b bad! She died 3 days b4 he became president.” Agree with the President or not, show a little respect. And common sense. KitchenAid has apologized for the insensitive tweet.

2. Big ups to TV anchor, Jennifer Livingston, who took to the air to check a viewer who sent a nasty email about her weight. Jennifer told the individual that they know nothing about her and that she’s more than a number on a scale. I’m glad she did this. I’m tired of anonymous trolls being mean to people for no reason other than they can.

3. A Chicago police chopper found a pot farm worth $10 million. What the heck? The field is reported to be the size of two football fields. Apparently, the pot was hidden from view by some really tall, ummmm, grass. Duuuude….

4. A restaurant in Kentucky was shut down because patrons saw the staff wheeling road kill into the kitchen. I kid you not. The owners said they didn’t know they weren’t allowed to do that. *blank stare*

What had you scratching your head this week?

07th Sep2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk1. Did you know you could get fired for mooning your boss? Apparently, Jason Selch didn’t know this until he took his bosses at Bank of America to court for firing him after he mooned them. Ummmm, even grade schoolers know they’ll get in trouble if they whip their butts out in public so why this grown man didn’t realize this is beyond me. I sure hope his 15 seconds of satisfaction was worth the millions he lost in bonuses, salary, etc.

2. So a judge has ordered a sex change operation for a prisoner serving a life sentence for the 1990 murder of his wife. Seriously? This is what my tax money is going to now? The justification for this tax~payer funded surgery is that this is “the only form of adequate medical care” for this guy who’s been living as a female in prison. I don’t mind my money going towards basic meals and healthcare but to pay for a sex change operation for a prisoner who murdered his wife… Unacceptable. And let’s not even discuss the fact that this man is serving a life sentence for murder. The murder of his wife. Where was the concern for “adequate medical care” and basic human rights when he chose to take his wife’s life?

3. I’ve always hated jumbotron public proposals mostly because the woman always looks like a deer caught in the headlights. But this proposal is hands down by far the worst proposal ever. Ever. A guy in Russia went through all the trouble of hiring a film crew, script writer, etc to stage his own death so his girlfriend would see how empty her life would be without him.  What the heck? After his girlfriend cried appropriately upon discovering his bloodied body in a wrecked car, he sprung to life and proposed. If that’d been me, the film crew would have been able to provide footage for the evening news.

What had you scratching your head this week?

06th Jul2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk1. My tolerance level for pedophiles has reached an all~time low. Not that I had much patience for them before. But, let me tell you, the story of Adam Lee Brown, an HIV~positive sex offender who attempted to assault and then stabbed a 10~year~old boy in a public bathroom, has me feeling all kinds of frustrated and angry. There is just so much wrong with this story: why was he out on parole after being convicted of trying to infect children with HIV nearly 20 years ago by rape? Why wasn’t he rotting under the jail? Seriously, when you hurt a child there should be no second chances.

2. So, hindsight being 20/20, everyone’s realizing that the TomKat split wasn’t such a big surprise after all. Apparently, peeps are checking out Katie’s interview in Elle, dissecting and parsing every word and sigh to determine that she’d planned to leave all along. I’m just happy the tranquilizers (or whatever caused that doe~in~the~headlights look) have worn off and I wish only the best for her and Suri. Still love that name.

What had you scratching your head this week?

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