Living Outside the Stacks

Navigating through life away from the library


Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. What is going on with kids today? And why are their parents supporting/defending/protecting them? I’m speaking specifically about the teen who shot and killed a baby after attempting to rob his mother and the three teen boys who beat up another boy on a school bus… Parents, if your kids are robbing people, selling drugs, or murdering innocent babies, they are not “good boys”, they are thugs who need to accept responsibility for their behavior. And accepting responsibility begins at home with you, the parents, being parents and disciplining your kids. Why, why, why are these parents on television defending the indefensible? I understand loving your kids unconditionally but that doesn’t mean that you condone their behavior.

2. And while I’m talking about defending the indefensible, when will we as a nation start to put our words into action and take a tougher stance against pedophiles and child molesters? District Judge G. Todd Baugh please pay attention to that name and if you live in Montana, do whatever you can to have him removed from the bench sentenced former teacher Stacey Dean Rambold remember his name and make sure he never gets another job to 30 days in jail after he was convicted of raping a 14~year~old girl who later took her life. Anyone who rapes, molests, or hurts a child should be put in prison with the general population. These people should never see the light of day. And for a judge, who is charged with seeing that justice is served, to give this guy a slap on the wrist for raping a child… He deserves to be removed from the bench and have his pension removed. He is not upholding the law, he’s condoning criminal behavior. There’s something fundamentally wrong with him and anyone who looks at a child and sees them as sexual beings.

3. Do you agree with the U.S. taking action in Syria? I’m kinda iffy on this one. President Assad is accused of gassing his own people last week as part of a brutal campaign to remain in power. While I see this as a humanitarian issue, I don’t understand how this directly impacts the U.S. And I don’t think that we have the I don’t know the right word to enter into another conflict. Lastly, if we’re just doing this as a police action/humanitarian step in, how come we stood by and did nothing while Africans were being slaughtered, raped, maimed, etc during their civil war? How do we determine who deserves to be saved?

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?

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Get Bitter or Get Better: Moving Forward after Trayvon {In the Cafe}

Get Bitter or Get Better: Moving Forward after Trayvon {Living Outside the Stacks}I, like many people, sat glued to my seat as the verdict was read. Not guilty. Another black boy’s life snuffed out. Not guilty. Black lives are worthless. Not guilty. Skittles and a hoodie can get you murdered. Not guilty. Unless your skin is black.

Whether we agree with the verdict or not, it is what it is. We can’t change that. But we can change where we go from here; we can get bitter or we can get better. Bitterness is easy. All it requires is for us to wallow in self pity, to lay down the victim card, to riot and react with violence, to throw our hands up and stop caring, to look at our young black boys and confirm what society has ingrained in them from the beginning of time: that they’re worthless.

But getting better… Oh, that requires work. Work that begins at home, with parents who love and support each other {even when they’re no longer together}. It requires that parents encourage their children to pick up books and learn to read, write, and speak properly. It requires that parents stop recording their kids “twerking” and start recording them participating in spelling bees and graduating from high school. It requires that parents look at the struggles of the past and determine that their children will be more and do more with their lives.

Getting better requires that we look at our culture that celebrates drugs, the denigration of women, and the glorification of violence and expect more. How can we expect other people to value our lives when we don’t? Where is the outrage when a black child is killed by another black child? When we start to care about ourselves as much as we expect other’s to, then and only then will we see change. We need to show them that we are more than stereotypes and internet memes.

Don’t let Trayvon’s death be in vain. Don’t let the deaths of thousands of others before him be in vain.

Do better. Be better.

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That Coffee Life {In the Dark Room}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever.  And there may be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

I decided to blend #thatcoffeelife with Coffee Talk this week because one of my favorite things to do is talk about current events over coffee. Please feel free to share your opinions, throw in a new topic, or link to your own discussions.

Coffee Talk #thatcoffeelife {Living Outside the Stacks}

1. Paula Deen. That whole situation is a bucket full of crazy with a cup of ohnoshedidn’t on the side. Seriously, how does anyone in the year 2013 think it’s acceptable to want to dress black folks as slaves to serve food at a wedding? scratching my head But I do have a question for Lisa Jackson, the former employee behind the lawsuit, for how long after Paula and Bubba made those racist/sexist/idiotic comments did you continue to work for them? And, even though it’s not something that you’d think that you should have to tell adults, did you ever tell them that their comments were wrong?

One of the first things I learned when I entered the working world is nothing is wrong until you say it’s wrong. If someone says something stupid, you correct them and let them know that it’s wrong, the second time, you follow up with corrective action that will hurt e.g. a formal complaint or a lawsuit if you a formal complaint would not be effective {as the case would be with Deen and her family}.

2. Did you catch any of the opening arguments in the Trayvon Martin case? Can you believe George Zimmerman’s defense attorney thought it would be appropriate to open with a joke? If I were Zimmerman, I would’ve fired him on the spot. Nothing about this case is funny. A child died because of some idiot with a hero complex. Yeah, I said it. Zimmerman stalked and shot Trayvon because he wanted to be a hero.

Zimmerman’s attorney stressed that Trayvon had the opportunity to go home 4 or 5 times before he chose to confront Zimmerman. I would argue that Zimmerman had the opportunity to go home when the dispatcher told him that he didn’t need him {Zimmerman} to follow Trayvon. Instead of backing off, Zimmerman chose to pursue this kid.

3. The family and I went to see World War Z over the weekend. Hated it. I’ve never read the book, so my reaction is totally based on what I saw on the big screen and all I can say is that I should’ve expected nothing less from Mr. Jolie. The whole movie viewed like an hours long propaganda film for globalism. Within the first few minutes of the movie, it was made clear that the U.S. had fallen apart and the only hope for the world is the World Health Organization and the United Nations.

I still believe there is a lot of good in this country. And I’m incredibly proud to be an American. I just wish more people felt that way.

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?

About That Coffee Life…

A few weeks ago, my friend and “baby brother”, Tony Armstrong of Tony Armstrong Photography noticed my morning coffee mugs on Instagram and suggested that I do a photographic series.  I loved the idea! A mug and a story. These weekly posts are a result of his suggestion. I’m honored that fellow coffee lover, writer, and photographer,  Beatrice of inspired by beatrice clay will be joining me every Tuesday morning to share coffee and inspiration. I invite you to follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter as we celebrate That Coffee Life.

If you’d like to join us, simpy take a picture of your cuppa, tell your story, and leave a comment with your link. We’ll be using the hash tag #thatcoffeelife.


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