Living Outside the Stacks

Navigating through life away from the library


Life {My Word for the Year}

Life {Living Outside the Stacks}

I’ll be turning 40 in March, this has been a difficult thing for me to accept. Forty has always symbolized something I never wanted to be: old. please read that word with the appropriate amount of shuddering and nose crinkling I remember looking at the forty~something~year~old women of my youth and thinking they were looking at me with something that bordered on pity, mingled with contempt, and tinged with jealousy. And they looked frumpy. Looking back, I realize that was just my own youthful misperception of grown women. In reality, they weren’t paying me or my silliness any attention. As for looking dowdy, everyone in the 80s and 90s looked old compared to now; chalk it up to the heavy makeup, big hair, and thick shoulder pads. And, truth be told, that neon wasn’t helping anyone either.

In the last few weeks, as I’ve watched the news and listened to stories of  lives ended way too soon, I’ve realized something: forty is not old. Forty is a blessing; a blessing that not everyone is given. Psalm 103:15~18 {NIV} says:

(15) As for man, his days are like grass, he flourishes like a flower of the field;

(16) the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more.

(17) But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children ~

(18) with those who keep his covenant and remember to obey his precepts.

So I will accept this blessing of life and the wrinkles that come with it. The grays, I may have to fight until I come across the last bottle of dye. But I want my life to be one of gratitude for the continuous gift of His eternal love, mercy, and grace. I know that He did not spare my life from premature birth, car accidents, and cancer for no reason, Jeremiah 29:11 tells me that He has plans for my life. Therefore, my vow to myself and to God is to live this life that He has blessed me with to the fullest.

2013 is the year of LIFE!


Today I Said “Good~Bye”

Harry K. Miller LibraryI remember how nervous I was when I first went to the campus for my interview.  I wasn’t sure what to expect ~ would everyone be nice, would it be one of those stuffy interviews where everyone asks questions and no one smiles or would it be relaxed and informal.  I went in prepared for the worst and hoping for the best.  It was better than I expected and by the end of the day I had a job offer.

That was almost ten months ago.  Today I had to say good~bye.  Have you ever met someone and thought Wow, I can’t believe we just click like this?  Well, that’s how it was with my co~workers and me.  From the first day I stepped into the library until today when I took my last step out of the library, I felt as if I belonged.  How many people can say that they truly enjoyed working with everyone in their office?

We’ve made all the promises to keep in touch.  Exchanged email.  Friended each other on Facebook.  I hope the connection remains and I hope whoever sits at my desk on Monday morning realizes what an incredible group of people he or she is about to encounter.


Advice for Miss 17 Upon Her Graduation

Squeekerz and Miss 17For 17 years, you’ve listened to my “Dos” and “Don’ts”.  You’ve shrugged me off at times and, at others, you’ve nodded and agreed.   I’ve shared my struggles of single motherhood with you.  Walking miles in the hot Louisiana sun because I didn’t have a car or the money for a taxi, just to get you from the babysitter’s house.   We’ve grown from a team of two to a family of seven.  You must of have known that Dad was the man for us, you loved him from the start.  So much has happened in the seventeen years that we’ve shared this journey together…

A few days ago, I turned to my friends and asked them to share their words of wisdom with you as you go forth into the next stage of your life.  Please take heart and listen to the wisdom of the web…

From my friends on Twitter:


Advice 1

Advice 3

Advice 2

Advice 5

Advice 6

When you kids were little, I used to tell you that God handpicked each and every one of you to live with me.  I thank Him for trusting me with the privilege of watching you grow into a beautiful young lady.  It has been my honor and I look forward to watching you walk your path.  My prayer for you is that you’ll trust in God, follow your heart and let common sense prevail.  Now get outta my house!

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