I have accepted that I will always participate in Women of Faith Wednesday on Thursday. LOL Really, I’m not one of those habitually late people, in fact, I usually arrive at meetings and things at least 15 minutes early. So why I am I always late for Women of Faith? Because I keep missing the initial question posting. Oh, well, at least I’m participating, right?
Today’s question is “What are 10 things you wish you would have known before you became a mother?” Hmmmm…
1. Having children would make me both weak and strong at the same time. I’m not just talking about physical strength, I’m talking emotionally. Really how can someone so small have so much control over everything? Just a little smile and your heart melts, no matter what that little critter has done!
2. Taking time for myself is not a selfish act. I think many mothers believe that if they take time for themselves they are being bad mothers and neglecting their children. Oh, no, Momma. You were a woman (or maybe a wife) first and you need to keep those relationships and maintain that identity. If you are happy and refreshed, your family will be happy and refreshed.
3. Children really don’t come with instruction guides. Ok, I kinda knew that but I thought that I would “instinctively” get things after my children were born. Um, yeah, not so much. There were times when I really had no clue why my baby was crying and no amount of swaddling~feeding~singing~ignoring could fix it.
4. Kids learn by watching. I remember when I first started dating my husband and I met his then 8~year~old daughter and she used to freak me out because she would stare at me without saying anything. Not. A. Word. I didn’t know what to do with that. When my daughters reached her age, they did the exact same thing. I came to realize that it wasn’t really strange, just the way that girls learn to identify with women.
5. It’s ok to say “I don’t know.” There are times when I really don’t know the answers to questions (when my kids hit the 6th grade, I told them that was the end of my assistance with any form of math; they informed me that I hadn’t “helped” since 4th grade) and that’s ok. My kids are fine with me not knowing the answers, it gives them the chance to look things up and then share with me.
6. Parenting teens is the same as parenting toddlers. You spend a lot of time saying “No” and “Because I said so….” And you may occasionally have to pop some fingers.
7. A good sense of humor can get you through anything. On the day that my husband and I were outprocessing from the Army, my daughter decided to share her artistic talent with the U.S. Army by drawing a huge picture of herself on the living room wall. All we could was laugh. And scrub. And scrub. And scrub.
8. Love increases with each child that you have. When I found out I was pregnant with my second child (who turned out to be twins), I worried that I wouldn’t have enough love in my heart for this child. I mean really, how could I love any child as much as I loved the one who now possessed my heart? My fear was not put to rest when someone who should have known better actually suggested that I couldn’t love my new child as much as my next one. But when those babies were born ~ Oh my word! Talk about my cup running over.
9. Sleep is a precious commodity. I have not slept in sixteen years. I am so tired.
10. I can’t protect my children from every hurt. When I was pregnant with my first child, I remember thinking No one’s ever gonna hurt my kid ~ not as long as I’m walking this planet. Then I heard “If I Could” by Regina Belle and it dawned on me that we can’t protect our children all the time. Just as our Heavenly Father doesn’t give us every desire of our heart, we have to let our children feel disappointment sometimes. He, in His infinite wisdom, knows that we have to walk through the rain to enjoy the sunshine…
Now it’s your turn, tell me in the comments what you would add to the list.
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