Living Outside the Stacks

Navigating through life away from the library


Neutral Boho {In the Closet}

For the past year or so I’ve been posting a fashion post of some sort on Wednesdays, but I’ve never really addressed why I decided that this is something that I wanted to do consistently. So I like that Kelly at Kiwi Women’s Style decided to make this the topic for this week’s Wardrobe Wednesday.

Gray Cardi White Tee Brown Skirt {Living Outside the Stacks}

Like many of you, when I first started participating in these weekly linkups, I was a stay~at~home wife and mom who rarely felt the need to dress in anything more than comfy sweats and a stolen borrowed tee. On the rare occasions when I did leave the house, I would go all “Models, Inc.” as the hubs likes to say. The weeks of sweats with the few breaks of dress started to take a toll on my self~esteem. I started to feel like nothing… Like I didn’t matter. Or worse, that I was invisible. Crazy how much putting on clothes can influence the way one feels, huh? And, yeah, it’s easy to say Why didn’t you just get dressed every morning then? But it’s hard to get dressed just to sit around the house, ya know? I’m telling you, Abby at Dear Abbyleigh hit the nail on the head when she said “dress for the day you’re having and not the one that’s having you.”

Then I discovered Lindsey’s What I Wore Wednesday posts on The Pleated Poppy and I was stunned to realize there were other women out there who felt the same way I was feeling. It was great to be a part of a community of women who were sharing similar experiences. As time progressed and I started reading beyond the style posts, I found women who offered advice on moving through the various life stages. This connection became crucial to helping me through a tough time {I was unemployed for what felt like forever and my children were at that stage where they only needed me for taxi and ATM purposes, etc}. Life was hard.

Gray Cardi White Tee Brown Skirt {Living Outside the Stacks}

Gray Cardi & Socks ~ Target

White Tee ~ Dollar General

Necklace ~ The River Runs Thru It Antique Shoppe

Belt & Skirt ~ Thrifted

Boots ~ Payless

Reading the comments from different bloggers has helped me to embrace my quirky style and try new things… Who knew I was a lover of skirts? And, omg, if it weren’t for these weekly linkups I never would have discovered the joys of thrifting. I also wouldn’t have found so many dear friends whose blogs I enjoy reading on a daily basis.

So why do you participate in the weekly fashion linkups?

I’m linking up with:

Please check them out for more fashion inspiration.


Wishing… {About Me}

Wishing for Spring {Living Outside the Stacks}
Maybe if we all wish together, Spring will come early.


Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. I big puffy heart social media; it has allowed me the opportunity to chat with you on Facebook, see your lives on Instagram, and hoard on Pinterest but ~ and this is a big BUT ~ there are a lot of things that are inappropriate for social media. Things like breaking up, drunk texting, and notifying people of a family member’s death. It happened. As in a Georgia police department notified a mother of the death of her 30~year~old son via Facebook.  Shaking my head The police department’s Facebook page isn’t even identified as being run by or affiliated with the police department {a picture of a rapper is being used for the avatar and the name on the account is one that is used for investigative purposes ~ “Misty Hancock”}. Seriously The family thought the email was a cruel joke {1. It had ended up in their “other” box on Facebook and 2. The message looked unofficial}

The department stated that they’d tried to contact the family using traditional means but couldn’t so they used Facebook as a last resort. Blank stare OK, let’s give them the benefit of the doubt and say they couldn’t contact the family using the telephone or a physical address, are they seriously trying to say that it never occurred to anyone to set up an official Facebook account for the police department so that people wouldn’t receive messages from a “Misty Hancock”?

2. And speaking of Facebook, a friend of mine reposted a video of some kids, roughly aged 8 to 12, “twerking”. If you don’t know what that is, look it up, I’ll wait. The first part of the video showed young boys dancing with each other and then a group of young girls were added to the dance party. Do you need a mental scrubbing? I know I do. This posting came just after I’d read an article about a 9~year~old rapper’s family being investigated by protective services because of some sexually suggestive videos in which the boy appears. There are so many things wrong with these two stories:

  • It is never appropriate to sexualize children; dancing in a sexually suggestive manner or pretending to smack the butt of a woman is neither cute nor funny. Parents, you can’t wonder why people see kids as sexual playthings when you’re encouraging them to shake their behinds while being taped.
  • Adults are laughing and cheering these kids on like they’re doing something special and/or unique but how many of these adults would be cheering as wildly if their kid won a Spelling Bee or was a Mathlete? It’s about priorities and these adults/parents have theirs in the wrong places.
  • Drug use is not a playing matter. Too many people have lost their lives to drugs, so phrases like “Coke ain’t a bad word” is irresponsible and stupid. What parent wants their kid to grow up to be a user?

We need to be encouraging our children to:

  1. live a Christ~centered life ~ enough said
  2. get an education ~ education is the key to escaping poverty
  3. make life enhancing decisions ~ be wise and use good judgement
  4. be healthy ~ eating right and being physically active is important throughout all phases of life; dance is a great form of exercise but keep it appropriate
  5. create and maintain wealth ~ I’m not talking about a couple of dollars to get you from the beginning to the end of the month, I’m talking about the kind of wealth that is passed from generation to generation. The kind of wealth that gets a family off welfare and into a position of self sustainability.

Parents need to do better. We as a society need to do better.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

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