02nd Sep2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. What is going on with kids today? And why are their parents supporting/defending/protecting them? I’m speaking specifically about the teen who shot and killed a baby after attempting to rob his mother and the three teen boys who beat up another boy on a school bus… Parents, if your kids are robbing people, selling drugs, or murdering innocent babies, they are not “good boys”, they are thugs who need to accept responsibility for their behavior. And accepting responsibility begins at home with you, the parents, being parents and disciplining your kids. Why, why, why are these parents on television defending the indefensible? I understand loving your kids unconditionally but that doesn’t mean that you condone their behavior.

2. And while I’m talking about defending the indefensible, when will we as a nation start to put our words into action and take a tougher stance against pedophiles and child molesters? District Judge G. Todd Baugh please pay attention to that name and if you live in Montana, do whatever you can to have him removed from the bench sentenced former teacher Stacey Dean Rambold remember his name and make sure he never gets another job to 30 days in jail after he was convicted of raping a 14~year~old girl who later took her life. Anyone who rapes, molests, or hurts a child should be put in prison with the general population. These people should never see the light of day. And for a judge, who is charged with seeing that justice is served, to give this guy a slap on the wrist for raping a child… He deserves to be removed from the bench and have his pension removed. He is not upholding the law, he’s condoning criminal behavior. There’s something fundamentally wrong with him and anyone who looks at a child and sees them as sexual beings.

3. Do you agree with the U.S. taking action in Syria? I’m kinda iffy on this one. President Assad is accused of gassing his own people last week as part of a brutal campaign to remain in power. While I see this as a humanitarian issue, I don’t understand how this directly impacts the U.S. And I don’t think that we have the I don’t know the right word to enter into another conflict. Lastly, if we’re just doing this as a police action/humanitarian step in, how come we stood by and did nothing while Africans were being slaughtered, raped, maimed, etc during their civil war? How do we determine who deserves to be saved?

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?

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20th Aug2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1.  Before I bring up this topic, I want to make it perfectly clear that anyone who engages in sexual (be it physical or emotional) relationship with a person under the legal age of consent is a pedophile and deserves to be punished to the fullest extent of the law. That person is a victim in every sense of the word. Now, let’s talk about kidnapping victim, Hannah Anderson, there are a couple of things wrong here:

  • She was allowed to go on overnight trips with this man?
  • They had contact (letters, phone calls, etc) even though she said he made her feel uncomfortable
  • She’s connecting with people on social media after finding out that her mom and brother were brutally murdered

Let me stress again, I’m not blaming the victim but I am raising some questions about the wisdom of the parents. Who allows their teenage daughter to go on away trips with a man? And, no, I don’t think all men are pervs but I do think that parents need to remember that most child abuse is committed by a family member or someone close to the family. Why is her father allowing her to discuss this stuff on social media? I realize this is how kids connect with each other but shouldn’t she take time to decompress, talk to a counselor, and hug her father?

2. Hillary Clinton may be running for President in 2016. Don’t we have any other choices besides another Clinton, another Bush, or any of the other people who’ve been trotted out over the past 4 election cycles?

3. And because I saw it I think you should too. The lap pillow. Good night.

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30th Jul2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

1. O. J. Simpson is asking to be released from prison early. blank stare He’s served nearly 5 years of his 33 year sentence and believes that he should be released because he’s been a model prisoner.  I guess he still doesn’t realize that he’s not really in prison for “stealing back his own stuff” but because the original prosecutors couldn’t make the murder charges stick. Whatevs, I know I’m not the only one who believes that’s why that man is really in jail. He got away with murder {even if he didn’t do it, I think he knows who did}, all he had to do was stay out of the public eye, but noooo, he had to keep working people’s nerves, now look…

2. I read that if you don’t have time to try on a pair of jeans before you buy them, you can do the “Neck Trick”: hold the jeans up to your neck, wrap the waist of the jeans around your neck so the ends touch,  if the waist band fits comfortably around your neck, they’ll fit your waist. I triple dog dare you to go into a store, try that trick, have someone take your picture, and post it.

3. Are you having a bad day? Click here. You’re welcome.

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25th Jun2013

That Coffee Life {In the Dark Room}

by Daenel

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever.  And there may be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

I decided to blend #thatcoffeelife with Coffee Talk this week because one of my favorite things to do is talk about current events over coffee. Please feel free to share your opinions, throw in a new topic, or link to your own discussions.

Coffee Talk #thatcoffeelife {Living Outside the Stacks}

1. Paula Deen. That whole situation is a bucket full of crazy with a cup of ohnoshedidn’t on the side. Seriously, how does anyone in the year 2013 think it’s acceptable to want to dress black folks as slaves to serve food at a wedding? scratching my head But I do have a question for Lisa Jackson, the former employee behind the lawsuit, for how long after Paula and Bubba made those racist/sexist/idiotic comments did you continue to work for them? And, even though it’s not something that you’d think that you should have to tell adults, did you ever tell them that their comments were wrong?

One of the first things I learned when I entered the working world is nothing is wrong until you say it’s wrong. If someone says something stupid, you correct them and let them know that it’s wrong, the second time, you follow up with corrective action that will hurt e.g. a formal complaint or a lawsuit if you a formal complaint would not be effective {as the case would be with Deen and her family}.

2. Did you catch any of the opening arguments in the Trayvon Martin case? Can you believe George Zimmerman’s defense attorney thought it would be appropriate to open with a joke? If I were Zimmerman, I would’ve fired him on the spot. Nothing about this case is funny. A child died because of some idiot with a hero complex. Yeah, I said it. Zimmerman stalked and shot Trayvon because he wanted to be a hero.

Zimmerman’s attorney stressed that Trayvon had the opportunity to go home 4 or 5 times before he chose to confront Zimmerman. I would argue that Zimmerman had the opportunity to go home when the dispatcher told him that he didn’t need him {Zimmerman} to follow Trayvon. Instead of backing off, Zimmerman chose to pursue this kid.

3. The family and I went to see World War Z over the weekend. Hated it. I’ve never read the book, so my reaction is totally based on what I saw on the big screen and all I can say is that I should’ve expected nothing less from Mr. Jolie. The whole movie viewed like an hours long propaganda film for globalism. Within the first few minutes of the movie, it was made clear that the U.S. had fallen apart and the only hope for the world is the World Health Organization and the United Nations.

I still believe there is a lot of good in this country. And I’m incredibly proud to be an American. I just wish more people felt that way.

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?

About That Coffee Life…

A few weeks ago, my friend and “baby brother”, Tony Armstrong of Tony Armstrong Photography noticed my morning coffee mugs on Instagram and suggested that I do a photographic series.  I loved the idea! A mug and a story. These weekly posts are a result of his suggestion. I’m honored that fellow coffee lover, writer, and photographer,  Beatrice of inspired by beatrice clay will be joining me every Tuesday morning to share coffee and inspiration. I invite you to follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter as we celebrate That Coffee Life.

If you’d like to join us, simpy take a picture of your cuppa, tell your story, and leave a comment with your link. We’ll be using the hash tag #thatcoffeelife.

Cheers,


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13th May2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever.  And there may be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

1. The big news story last week was the rescue of the three missing ladies in Cleveland. This story has so many victims beyond the missing women who I hope will have their requests for privacy respected: the women’s families, the abductor’s family members, investigators, etc. How does a town even begin to recover from something like this? And, for the rest of us, how do we not look at our neighbors without just a hint of suspicion?

2. Of course with the news of the rescue of the three women, I couldn’t help but to start thinking about Terrilynn Monette, the teacher from New Orleans who went missing while celebrating her “Teacher of the Year” nomination. I did a quick search to see if anything has changed since I first talked about her nearly two months ago, and the case has gone cold. And, as is the case with many missing people of color, there still has been precious little media coverage.

3. I added another picture to my 4oth birthday photography series “Celebrating Me”. I thought about posting the picture here, but, honestly, I’m tired of looking at my face, so if you’d like to see it, click here. I’m actually kind of proud of that picture, I used an old one of Nicole Richie for inspiration. In case you didn’t know, I’m a Nicole Richie fan. So bizarre, right? Considering I’m 40 and she’s, what, thirtysomething? Ooooh, do you remember that television show? Loved it!

4. And speaking of photography, have you seen this picture of a 1930’s Harlemite? People swear up and down it’s Jay~Z. Ummmm, I don’t know about all that but they say everyone has a twin… Do you have a celebrity twin? I think mine is probably Lisa Bonet, from The Cosby Show.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

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06th May2013

Makes Me Wanna Weep {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stories that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head and asking “What the what?” to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever and make me wonder who has time for that. And there may be a recipe or two thrown in just for fun.

So grab a cup of whatever you fancy and let’s start chatting…

1.  Have you been following the case of Dr. Kermit Gosnell, a Philadelphia abortion doctor who’s on trial for the murder of 4 babies? This doctor {and I use that term loosely because last time I checked, doctors are sworn to do no harm}, is accused of the most heinous crimes against humanity and the case is receiving little to no coverage. You can read a brief history of the story here.

I have so many issues with this story but I’ll hit the top 3 here:

  • When and how often were state inspections done?
  • How come no one who worked with this “doctor” reported him? Was it really all about a paycheck?
  • Why isn’t this story getting front page coverage? Oh, it’s because it’s talking about the heinous murder of babies “fetuses”. If this guy had committed these crimes against an adult or even a “baby”, people would be going after him with pitchforks and fire.

2. A teenage soccer player could be facing charges in the murder of a referee who slipped into a coma and then died after being punched. I’m totally going to blame the soccer player’s parents here ~ their child was obviously not taught to control his anger. Now that the kid’s a teenager, it’s too late. And a family has lost a husband, a father, a son, a brother, a friend…   You can read about the story here.

3. And because I hate to end on a sad note, let’s give it up for a Canadian man who celebrated his birthday by paying off his mom’s mortgage! You can watch the video here. Note to my kids: any time you wanna help your parents out, this is a good way to start.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

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15th Mar2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever.  And there may be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

1. Two weeks ago Terrilynn Monette was out celebrating her “Teacher of the Year” nomination, within a few hours she would vanish without a trace. There’s so much wrong with this story that it’s hard to find the beginning…

Monette was last seen celebrating with friends at Parlay’s, a bar in the Lakeview area of New Orleans, LA. After drinking and having a good time, Monette told her friends she was too drunk to drive home, so she was going to sleep it off in her car. side eye at thefriends” Later, a bar tender would tell the police that he had to “cut her off” because she’d had too much. giving the bar tender the stink eye as well Around 4 AM, Monette was seen talking to an unidentified male, who was questioned and released by the police. She has not been seen since.

Soooo, these are the problems that I have with this story:

  • Monette’s friends were OK with her “sleeping” in her car even though she was reportedly drunk?
  • In New Orleans? By herself? Really?
  • The bar tender couldn’t call her a cab since she was so drunk he had to cut her off?
  • We have another story of a missing black female who isn’t getting any of the press coverage that missing white females receive I hate making this about race but if this were a white girl, we’d be getting hourly updates, just saying

If you have any information, please contact the New Orleans Police Department at 504.821.222 or Texas EquuSearch at 281.309.9500.

2. And in news that I sincerely hope is a joke, Lady Gaga is riding around in a 24~karat~gold~plated wheelchair. blank stare This fancy schmancy wheel chair also has a cushy leather seat and a canopy that kinda resembles the ones you see on baby carriages. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. I know being over the top is her “thing” but seriously?

3. Every so often, I get a little itch do some crafting. Really, there’s nothing like wearing something that you’ve created with your own two hands. I also have the attention span of a gnat so when I make stuff, I need to see it all come together rather quickly. So if you’re anything like me, this diy beaded necklace from my friend and fellow blogger, Chandra at a stylish little lady, is perfect! Isn’t it adorbs? And you can wear it with just about anything. Suh~weet.

4. And speaking of sweet, who wants chocolate chip cookies? raises hands, jumps in the air, and does everything else to call attention to the fact that I love chocolate chip cookies My friend, Lisa at It Keeps Getting Better is sharing her recipe for The Best Chocolate Chip Cookies Ever. My finders fee is, of course, some freshly baked cookies.

What had you talking this week?

 

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22nd Feb2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}This week’s edition is brought to you by the letters “R” and “S” as in “Racism is still alive and well. And so is stupidity.”

1. An African American nurse is suing a Michigan hospital because it granted a father’s request that “no African American nurses take care of his baby.” While making the request, the father flashed a tat that looked similar to a swastika. sigh Instead of denying the request, the charge nurse reassigned the African American nurses and then put up a notice on the clipboard that read: “No African American nurses to take care of baby.” Are you serious? The charge nurse didn’t realize that this was a racist request and that obliging it violated all sorts of laws? The nurse should have told the father to go pound sand and take his kid with him if he can’t stomach the thought of a highly skilled nurse, regardless of his or her color, taking care of his child. Oh, did I mention the nurse who was tending his child at the time the request was made has over 25 years of experience as a neonatal intensive care nurse? blank stare

2. An Idaho executive is accused of slapping an 18~month~old boy with an open hand, while telling the mother to shut her child up. He also used a racial slur in reference to the baby. Let me tell you something, had it been me, the earrings would’ve come off and they’d still be prying my hands from around his neck. Are you kidding me? And then his lawyer has the nerve to say using the “N word” doesn’t make the man a racist? OK, let’s say it doesn’t make him a racist but it does make him a child abusing idiot who deserves to lose his job {which he did} and have his picture posted all over the place {which it is} so that everyone can recognize him for the butt head that he is.

3. So last week in the comments, fellow blogger Ellie stated that the Jesse Jackson, Jr. debacle has her scratchin’ her head, and I couldn’t agree more. First of all, let’s back the train up… The man was on indefinite medical leave due to bipolar depression and gastrointestinal issues and he still managed to win re~election with 63% of the vote. eye pop He wasn’t even in office for most of the year preceding his re~election and he still won! What the heck, y’all? OK, now let’s talk about the fact that he was living off his campaign funds… He and his wife reportedly spent the money on Michael Jackson memorabilia, a Rolex watch, and home improvements. Duuude…. People, just because someone is the spawn of a civil rights activist does not mean they should hold office.

4. And because stupid is just so much fun, you know when you’re not the one dealing with it, here’s another one for you… A landlord in Ohio has been charged with assault for whipping the bare butt of his 29~year~old tenant with a belt because the man was late on his rent. What the what? The tenant said he submitted to the whipping because he was “scared and just wanted to get it over with.”

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

11th Jan2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. It’s no secret that I absolutely positively hate birds and cats. Birds because they fly over head and are, um, inconsiderate. And cats because of that jumping thing they do. Well, I’ve found out that I’m in good company. Apparently Zach Randolph of the Grizzlies hates cats too. Fist bump, dude, they are some scary critters. He doesn’t like the scratching, I don’t like the jumping. It’s like we were separated at birth.

2. I know art is subjective buuuut…. I think this is stupid. A performance artist in China stripped down to his skivvies, hung three roasted chickens across a plank that was tied to his back and then had an art student cover his body in hickies for an hour and a half. At the end of the “performance”, she doused him in cold water. The message? That Chinese youth should “seek out the excellent genuine love and feelings of traditional China.” What the what?

3. Jerry Sandusky is requesting a new trial on the basis that his attorneys didn’t have enough time to properly prepare for the first trial. eye roll When is this man going to do the decent thing and just go away? I’m so sick and tired of child  rapists and killers turning victim after they get caught. But I’m even more annoyed by a judicial system that allows these creeps to keep wasting tax dollars by rearing their ugly little heads every now and then. Once they’ve been tried and convicted can’t they just be banished to a cave deep in the bowels of the earth never to be seen or heard from again?

4. The list of potentially life threatening weapons seems to be expanding. A Portland man was arrested this past week for trying to choke his girlfriend with his dreadlocks. blank stare The man was arrested and charged with kidnap in the second degree along with several other Domestic Violence felony crimes. Does this mean that people are going to want to legislate hair length? And, if so, I’d like to side with the people who believe hair length is a personal choice. After all, it doesn’t matter how long or short a person’s hair is, the hair only becomes dangerous when on the head in the hands of a crazy person.

So what had you scratchin’ your head this week?

04th Jan2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}Hi, if you’re a regular reader you know that on Fridays I write a little post that I like to call “Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head”. It’s all about the crazy stuff that  I’ve read on the web or heard about on TV during the week. After writing that post for a year, I’ve learned one thing: there is a never ending stream of bizarre among the human race. And I love us for that.

With the new year I’ve decided to do a little revamping of these posts. The only things I’ve changed are the title and the picture. I like to think of these posts as if they’re conversations you and I would have over coffee. So I hope you’ll continue to join me each Friday for a cuppa and some head scratchin’…

1. Rape isn’t funny. And those who commit it, regardless of their age or athletic ability should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. This past week a young lady who was gang raped in India died from her injuries. In Ohio an underaged girl was raped by members of a football team who videotaped the incident and then texted and tweeted about the incident. Reportedly members of the football boosters and others in the town helped to cover up the incident to protect the reputations of the football players. This is why Penn State happened. Stop giving athletes carte blanche to be jerks. Social media activists, the victims parents, and Anonymous are collecting information to help prosecute the rapists. I applaud them and the others who’re helping to bring this young lady’s rapists to justice.

2. I didn’t watch CNN’s New Year’s Eve show. I never watch it. And I’m glad I didn’t as it seems the big drop was Kathy Griffin falling to her knees and kissing Anderson Cooper’s crotch. Seriously. I don’t know who keeps telling her that she’s funny, she’s not. I don’t know who keeps telling her that she’s edgy, she’s not. I don’t know who keeps putting her on television, stop! This is one of  the reasons teens don’t appreciate the intimacy of sex.

3. When I was a kid I suffered from the ugly trifecta: thick glasses, braces, and freckles. I remember when I was about 15 years old a guy actually said to me “Someday you’re going to be irresistible.” I wanted to throat punch him. After nearly 5 years in braces and promises of all sorts of good things, my parents bought me contact lenses and I came into my own. But those braces were hard. And they hurt. That’s why I find it so mind boggling that there are people who’re wearing fake braces. Apparently, fake braces are all the rage in Asia and kids are dying from them. Black market braces I can’t believe I just typed that cost about $100 and can contain lead. Some teens are even putting them on themselves and then choking on the pieces when they come lose and slide down their throats. Hey, teens, you know what’s really cool and fashionable? Sending me your $100!

4. Another college student has nearly died because of hazing. deep sigh How many stories are we going to read like this before students get it through their heads that being whipped with a paddle, drinking as much alcohol as quickly as possible, or any of the other stupid stuff they do is not the way to acceptance? Of course, the parents are planning to sue the school because they didn’t watch their kid close enough; but my question is, Mom and Dad, what’re you planning to do to your kid? When are parents going to make their kids take a little responsibility for the dumb things they do? Theoretically, your kid is an adult meaning they’re supposed to be making smart decisions, and on some level they have to know that hurting themselves to join a sorority or a fraternity is ridiculous.

So what had you scratchin’ your head this week?

16th Nov2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. I guess judges are getting tired of people doing dumb stuff and making taxpayers for their stupidity, so they’re finding creative ways to punish them. A Cleveland Municipal judge ordered a woman to stand at an intersection holding a sign that read: “Only an idiot would drive on the sidewalk to avoid a school bus.” Yes, you read that right. That woman drove on the sidewalk to pass a bus that was unloading children.  Shaking my head

2. When I first read that some people were so salty over the elections that they filed petitions to secede from the union, I thought it was just another crazy Facebook meme until I read about them on the Washington Post website. Y’all seriously? Let me tell you something about this great country of ours… This is a democracy, the people speak every 4 years. The people chose to re~elect President Obama, so you deal. And in 4 years, when you get another chance at the White House, present a stronger message! Second, this is a free country. No one is holding you hostage. If you don’t like it, leave and go to one of those countries where you’re not free to voice an opinion or pick who governs you. For the record, this would be my opinion regardless of who’s sitting in the White House.

3. I know pregnancy makes you crazy… I once dreamed that ginormous Power Rangers chased me and the hubs into a church. The pink one ripped the roof off the building, picked the hubs up and ate him. But this lady takes crazy pregnant lady to a whole new level: an Arizona woman was so upset when she found out that her husband didn’t vote that she ran over her husband with her SUV. Her fear? That President Obama’s re~election will bring hardship to her family. Oy! I guess in the grand scheme of things, secession makes so much more sense and murder is much easier than divorce.

4. I love a deal. No, I really love a good deal and will share info about a great deal with anyone who’ll listen. But I love spending time with my family even more. And I’m almost positive that other people love deals and spending time with their families just as much as I do.  So why is it that a certain segment of our population is being denied the right to spend time with their families because people have decided that Black Friday deals should begin on Thanksgiving evening? What the heck? Are you seriously telling me that people cannot wait until Friday morning to begin Black Friday shopping? Thanksgiving is supposed to be about spending time with loved ones, not going out and trying to kill yourself to buy a $20 discounted item that no one’s gonna remember 6 months from now but will make repeat appearances on the credit card bill for the next 4 years. Stop the madness!

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

26th Oct2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. Republican politicians, can I tell ya something? You really need to work on your “Hate the sin, love the sinner” message ’cause right now you’re failing miserably at explaining anything that has to do with women and rape.

2. And while I’m on the political, women can handle heated debates, so stop saying that Obama’s and Romney’s sparkless debate was because they’re “courting women voters and women can’t handle conflict.” Ummm, have you ever had contact with a woman? In this century?

3. I hate that saggy pants thing that guys do. It’s so not cool. Especially when the guy is over the age of 20. By that time the guy should have long been able to afford to buy a belt. I actually saw a guy fall while crossing the street because his pants were so saggy. The reason I’m bringing this up is because a lot of cities are trying to pass ordinances to ban saggy pants. While I’m all for ending this horribly tacky trend, I think cops have bigger issues to worry about. Then again, aren’t there already decency laws on the books?

4. Have you seen Brad Pitt’s Chanel No. 5 commercial? What in the world is he talking about? At first I thought it was some sort of PSA. This guy takes himself way too seriously.

4. A New York City police officer was arrested for allegedly plotting to kidnap, rape, kill and eat women. What the what? Here’s the thing, ladies, if you’re driving alone at night and you see flashing lights in your rear mirror, throw on your hazard lights, slow down and do not pull your car over until you’re in a well lit area. You can also dial 911, give them your location and ask for backup. If the cop is legitimate, he will understand. Do not pull your car over on a remote road. Be safe, people are crazy.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

20th Oct2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}1. It feels like every week there’s a new story about child sex abuse/murder/kidnapping. This week the news centers around the Boy Scouts and their so~called “Pervert Files”. It looks like they had the same policy as the Catholic Church and Penn State when it came to dealing with child predators… Why is it that organizations prefer to protect their reputations rather than protect the children who’ve been entrusted with their care? My honest~to~goodness~no~holds~barred opinion on this subject is that any and everyone who hurts a child should be put to death. No appeal. No languishing on Death Row for years. Just kill them. And anyone who protects or covers up a child sex case should go to prison. For life.

2. A 10~year~old boy with Down Syndrome survived being lost in the woods by cuddling with some pups for warmth. Seriously, folks, if animals know enough to protect our kids, how come humans have a hard time with that concept? Really, these stories about abused kids are irritating the living daylights out of me. I need to move on.

3. Did you watch the season premier of The Walking Dead? Hands down one of my favorite shows. Especially now that Hell On Wheels is on hiatus. The family and I gathered around the TV and watched it together. Even the dogs joined us.

4. This story about Stella Ehrhart made my heart beat with all sorts of nerdy happiness. Every day since the second grade, Stella has dressed as a different historical figure. How seriously fun is that? It also doesn’t hurt that her parents are theatre folks.

What had you scratchin’ your head this week?

07th Sep2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk1. Did you know you could get fired for mooning your boss? Apparently, Jason Selch didn’t know this until he took his bosses at Bank of America to court for firing him after he mooned them. Ummmm, even grade schoolers know they’ll get in trouble if they whip their butts out in public so why this grown man didn’t realize this is beyond me. I sure hope his 15 seconds of satisfaction was worth the millions he lost in bonuses, salary, etc.

2. So a judge has ordered a sex change operation for a prisoner serving a life sentence for the 1990 murder of his wife. Seriously? This is what my tax money is going to now? The justification for this tax~payer funded surgery is that this is “the only form of adequate medical care” for this guy who’s been living as a female in prison. I don’t mind my money going towards basic meals and healthcare but to pay for a sex change operation for a prisoner who murdered his wife… Unacceptable. And let’s not even discuss the fact that this man is serving a life sentence for murder. The murder of his wife. Where was the concern for “adequate medical care” and basic human rights when he chose to take his wife’s life?

3. I’ve always hated jumbotron public proposals mostly because the woman always looks like a deer caught in the headlights. But this proposal is hands down by far the worst proposal ever. Ever. A guy in Russia went through all the trouble of hiring a film crew, script writer, etc to stage his own death so his girlfriend would see how empty her life would be without him.  What the heck? After his girlfriend cried appropriately upon discovering his bloodied body in a wrecked car, he sprung to life and proposed. If that’d been me, the film crew would have been able to provide footage for the evening news.

What had you scratching your head this week?

27th Jul2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk1. That Penn State situation is just getting crazier and crazier. I’m wondering if they’re going to just call it a day and close the school down? Is there any way for them to recover from this? The NCAA has levied all kinds of fines against the school, students are transferring, lawsuits are being filed… In fact, the lawyers for the victim #2 have released an audio of Sandusky offering the guy tickets to the Penn State game if he wants them. Nice. Sandusky ends the call by saying “I love you.” I’m not a violent person but even I want to punch his teeth in. Seriously? His actions are so far removed from love that there is no name for it.

2. And while I’m talking about creepy, a Florida puppeteer was arrested for talking explicitly online to another man about wanting to kidnap, rape, kill and eat small children. What in the world? What’s even scarier is that parents said that he used to host pizza parties at his house and all the neighborhood kids would wait for him to get home. Here’s a big hint for all of you moms and dads out there: if a guy is hosting parties for kids and he doesn’t have any of his own, err on the side of caution and keep your kids at home. I will never, for the life of me, understand people who just let their kids go hang out with strangers.

3. I’ve been trying to avoid the whole Jackson family drama since, well, forever, but this week when Momma Kate went missing, even I became concerned. You know, these kids are in for a world of hurt. Their father went too a lot of extremes to keep them out of the public eye, now it seems as if that entire family is doing everything to keep them front and center, even if it means destroying them… Isn’t it enough that they saw what their childhoods did to Michael, do they really have to inflict the same insanity on the next generation of Jacksons?

4. A hotel in England is replacing copies of the bible with copies of Fifty Shades of Grey. Blank stare.

What had you scratching your head this week?

19th Jul2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk1. I don’t know about you but when Apple introduced Siri, I was totally jealous. I also had the same flood of envy when Instagram photos started popping up all over Twitter. But now Android user an have their own talking assistant on their phones too. Thanks to my friend, Cathy, at Minister of Style, I found out about Assistant for Android and I’ve been all over it. All you have to do is click here, download and start talking. You can customize the avatar as well as the vocals. So. Much. Fun.

2. Did you see George Zimmerman’s interview with Sean Hannity on Fox? Honestly, his lawyer’s need to muzzle him because he’s a walking contradiction wrapped in lies with an inflated sense of self. When asked if he’d do anything differently that night, he actually replied no, then he corrected himself and said he wishes that he hadn’t been put in the position where he had to protect himself. Seriously? Dude, had you listened to the dispatcher and not followed Trayvon, you wouldn’t have murdered a teenager. Zimmerman also said it was that what happened that day was “God’s will”. Ummm, Mr. Zimmerman, my God had nothing to do with you playing rent~a~cop.

3. Apparently, the Hoff is still popular. Thieves are stealing giant David Hasselhoff cutouts from convenience stores. Really, people?

What had you scratching your head this week?

13th Jul2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk1. I love coffee. No, you don’t understand, I. Really. Love. Coffee. But there are times when drinking coffee is inappropriate, the biggest being during a funeral. Apparently, Robinson Funeral Home in South Carolina doesn’t agree. They’re attaching a Starbucks to the funeral home. This is just so weird.

2. So the guy who brings us Dance Moms is in the process of creating a new reality show about wait for it…

Extended breastfeedingBlank stare. Don’t get me wrong, I applaud women who breastfeed. I breastfed all four of my children. But do we really need to see a TV show about women who breastfeed their preschoolers? Didn’t we get enough, ummm, titillation from the Time cover a few weeks back? What will be gained from this? An educational program this won’t be. Exploitation of the families and furthering misperceptions about breastfeeding? Possibly.

3. The Penn State report was released, is anyone surprised that the powers that be covered up Sandusky’s raping of little boys to protect the University’s reputation? Seriously, when did the welfare of children start taking a back seat to a football game? I hope others who find themselves in a position to get a child out of danger see this as a cautionary tale and do the right thing ~ don’t just tell but follow up and make sure that it doesn’t happen again.

What had you scratching your head this week?

06th Jul2012

Things That Leave Me Scratchin’ My Head {Coffee Talk}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk1. My tolerance level for pedophiles has reached an all~time low. Not that I had much patience for them before. But, let me tell you, the story of Adam Lee Brown, an HIV~positive sex offender who attempted to assault and then stabbed a 10~year~old boy in a public bathroom, has me feeling all kinds of frustrated and angry. There is just so much wrong with this story: why was he out on parole after being convicted of trying to infect children with HIV nearly 20 years ago by rape? Why wasn’t he rotting under the jail? Seriously, when you hurt a child there should be no second chances.

2. So, hindsight being 20/20, everyone’s realizing that the TomKat split wasn’t such a big surprise after all. Apparently, peeps are checking out Katie’s interview in Elle, dissecting and parsing every word and sigh to determine that she’d planned to leave all along. I’m just happy the tranquilizers (or whatever caused that doe~in~the~headlights look) have worn off and I wish only the best for her and Suri. Still love that name.

What had you scratching your head this week?

11th Nov2010

Amazon.com “Pedophile Guide” Reveals Larger Societal Issues

by Daenel

Yesterday, Facebook and Twitter were set on fire with the revelation that Amazon.com had started selling an ebook called “The Pedophile’s Guide to Love and Pleasure” on its website.  According to the author, the book was written to make “pedophile situations safer for juveniles that find themselves involved in them” by providing rules for pedophiles to follow as well as giving them tips on how to get lighter sentences should they get caught.

Amazon.com justified its position by stating that not selling the book is censorship, which they do not support regardless of how objectionable a person’s message may be. They also stated that they support individuals’ rights to make their own purchasing decisions.

This book presents more than just an objectionable message, it is a how to guide for pedophiles that teaches them how to work around the system.  And by selling and promoting the book, Amazon.com has proven that the bottom line matters more than the security of children.

Furthermore, isn’t Amazon.com essentially aiding and abetting in the commission of a crime if someone takes this how to guide for pedophiles and uses it to commit an act against a child?  Shouldn’t Amazon.com be just as liable as a bar who sells alcohol to a patron who then goes out and kills someone because they’re driving while intoxicated?

That being said, Amazon.com is a business and the reason businesses exist is to make money, not to make moral judgements.  The real problem lies with the individual who felt “safe” enough to not only write this book, but publish it and offer it to a retailer to sell.I would argue that pop culture has any many ways created a “safe zone” for individuals like this ~ just turn on your TV, flip through a magazine, browse the local shopping mall…

The sexualization of children started long before the publication of this book.  Have you looked at the clothes that are being marketed to kids?  Just take a look at this video produced by ABC News, these clothes are being targeted for purchase by girls 12 to 16.

Look at teen celebs, what’s the fastest way for them to be taken “seriously” as actors?  By publicly expressing their sexuality (e.g. Miley Cyrus who is 17, but, wait, take a look at her younger sister, Noah, who is 9!).  I have yet to see male stars stripping down to their skivvies to prove they’re an adult, but that’s another post.

I’m not blaming the Cyrus family specifically, but I am blaming a media that celebrates the exploitation of children and the parents who buy these skanky outfits for their kids and then express shock when grown men start looking at these kids like they’re sexual objects.  Ultimately, the responsibility for protecting our children lies not with businesses (or even the media) but with the parents.

Why do you think this person felt safe?  Do you think it has to do with the sexualization of children in the media?

Disclosure:  I’m a librarian and as a librarian, I’m against censorship, book banning or anything else that conflicts with free speech and expression, however, I draw the line when that speech involves the commission of crimes against children.

18th Sep2010

Coffee Talk: Racism, Lies and Other Crimes

by Daenel

When I first heard the story of Bethany Storro, I was shocked and saddened that someone would do something so awful to this woman. In fact, I even discussed my outrage on my Facebook page. I mean, seriously, why would one woman throw acid at another woman and destroy her face? Storro said that a strange woman ~ “African American with black hair pulled into a pig tail” ~ threw acid into her face after asking if she wanted a drink. For a random attack, it seemed so personal.

Then came the reports that the whole story may be a hoax and that the African American perpetrator may not even exist. The reporters that covered the story asked the requisite questions:

  • “Why did Bethany Storro do this?”
  • “Will she face charges?”
  • “Should she go to jail?”

But no one asked the real question, why did she blame an African American woman?  What is it with these crazy women who make up crimes against themselves and then blame African Americans, Hispanics (“Runaway Bride” Jennifer Wilbanks claimed to have been sexually assaulted by a Hispanic male when, in fact, she simply didn’t want to get married), etc?  And when are the laws going to start punishing these women and charging them with hate crimes?  Yes, a hate crime.

These women aren’t just innocently picking a random descriptor out of the sky, they are going for what they assume to be a believable target.  And their beliefs are based on deep seated racism and hatred.  They are specifically targeting minorities, wasting police time and creating stress for the people in their communities.  I think more than a simple fine is in order.

What do you think?  Do you think women who make false charges like these should be charged with a crime?  Should they be charged with a hate crime if their accusations are found to be false?

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