Coffee Talk: I’m So Tired 18 comments

Coffee Talk {living outside the stacks}

I’d like to welcome you to Coffee Talk. If you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever. And, who knows, there may even be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

So grab a cup of coffee {or tea or whatever floats your boat} and let’s talk…

2016 is shaping up to be the most physically, spiritually, and emotionally exhausting year of my life. Between all the deaths {which I recognize as a part of life, but the ones due to violence are just beyond my comprehension}, the friends and family who’ve received heartbreaking health diagnoses, and the whole political situation, I’m just ready for this year to end.

  1. A couple of days ago I posted this video on my personal Facebook page and it led to probably one of the most uncomfortable discussions I’ve ever had. I posted the video because I thought it was fun and it showed Mrs. Obama doing something that we all do in the car ~ turn it into our personal stage. Someone took issue with the video and took it as an opportunity to knock Mrs. Obama and write about how little class she has. To say I was surprised and disappointed would be putting my reaction mildly. I don’t understand why people don’t understand that they can disagree with someone’s politics without making personal attacks. I don’t understand why people don’t understand that they can disagree with someone’s personal politics and still appreciate their sense of humor. The two are not mutually exclusive. I do not agree with all of the Obama’s political/social beliefs but I respect them as first, and foremost, the President and First Lady of the United States and all that it entails. I think they’ve raised their daughters well. I believe they’ve carried themselves with grace and dignity despite the heaps of criticism and outright disrespect that has been turned their way. I also think they {along with Bush 1 and Bush 2} exemplify what true partnership in a marriage should look like. I ended up deleting the comments because, ultimately, it’s my page and I control what is and is not posted, but I have to say, this entire election cycle has me looking at a lot of people in a whole new way.
  2. All analysis of the year 2016 will boil down to one collective head shake with no real answers. Former Grand Wizard of the Ku Klux Klan, David Duke, has announced his campaign for the U.S. Senate.
  3. Usually I have three items but I’m tired. Y’all, I’m just tired.

Now it’s your turn, what has you scratching your head?

Sipping my coffee while you talk,

Daenel T {Living Outside the Stacks}





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  • Hmm… just saw that Michelle Obama video… that was super cute! Haters gonna hate. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that the world IS changing, and it makes some people (racists, bigots, etc) scared and uncomfortable, so they’re acting… scared.

    I guess a little bit of sunshine is that our children see how we act. I can only speak for myself and my kids, but I think things will be SO much better for them, even if some crappy things are happening right now. Just an example from my life to illustrate this: My son is in taekwondo. He has a white instructor and an Indian instructor. He forgets their names sometimes, so calls them based on a very obvious-to-him feature that separates them. Glasses. It’s “The One With The Glasses” or “The one without the glasses.” He’s never mentioned skin color. There are also to Mayas in his class. One is Vietnamese, the other is Venezulan/Caucasian… and again, he refers as Maya-With-The-Glasses and Maya-Without-Glasses.

    I know it’s nothing major, but it’s something. When I was a kid, there was a mixed race family on our street… and I was given the impression that it was okay… but still odd. Today, it’s something my kids aren’t even likely to notice.

    • Lisa, that just made my heart smile. Every time I hear/read/see little people just doing and being themselves without all of the biases of adulthood it gives me hope.

      I grew up overseas with friends who came from different parts of the world, their parents were sometimes mixed race couples, gosh, sometimes the siblings were… We never thought about it until we came back to the States and saw all the white kids sitting in a group, all the black kids together, etc.

      My hope/prayer is that your little people and my grandchildren are the ones who make a difference…

  • Juanita

    Good discussion on here! 🙂

    • It is. I thought I was the only one who was suffering from political fatigue and the nastiness that has come with it.

  • Lyn Moes

    I loved the video & I agree, people are just so disrespectful. I was not a Bush (1 or 2) fan but I can’t imagine bashing them in the way some people have spoken about the Obama’s. It’s disgusting. I also feel that if you are an intelligent human being, you know your thoughts & where you stand in this world, you should be able to have any kind of normal converstion about politics, with anyone, like-minded or not. If you have no worries about your opinions being “swayed” why should it matter what anyone else thinks? People always say not to talk politics with others but how can we not? We just need to talk respectfully with others who’s opinions are different than ours. We’d be in a whole different world if everyone would. (My dad was a high school government teacher & I loved listening to him “talk politics” with others. I also never knew how he voted. He wouldn’t tell anyone – not even me, his only daughter – so as not to lead people into thinking one way or the other. I am a total liberal, probably because of this.)

    • Your dad and I would’ve gotten along so well. I teach American History and have taught American Government, my students and I would talk politics all the time but they never knew which way I voted. At the end of the semester they’d thank me for the open and honest discussions because they couldn’t have them at home. So, I applaud your father!

      I didn’t agree with everything that the Bush 1 and 2 did either but I never disrespected them. We were always taught to respect the position even if you don’t respect the person. And the Bible admonishes us to pray for those who’re over us, so that’s what I try to do.

      • Lyn

        I applaud you! It is hard to be an objective teacher, but it is imperative to be open to all thoughts and discussions if you want kids (anyone) to learn.

        • For me {and probably for your dad too}, it’s about creating a safe space for students to question and think about things on their own without family and tradition to influence their opinions. I have to give most of the credit to my students. I’ve been blessed to have students who come from a variety of backgrounds and beliefs, so it makes for robust discussions.

      • Juanita

        I try to pray for all in authority over us, too.

  • Diana Arnold

    I was brought up in a time that proper etiquette, “never talk politics or religion in public”, like at parties, etc. was the norm. I was shocked when people started posting political stuff on places like Facebook. (I am guilty of being sucked in too, I answer some of the political rhetoric, but I just reply with facts. I don’t argue, just lay out the facts and stats. There are a lot of lies and hype flying around out there!) I understand and feel what you meant, but I guess our society is so politically polarized, manners have gone out the window. Anyway, you have a fun Blog, keep up the good work!

    • I don’t necessarily agree that you can’t discuss politics — how else do you form opinions, learn about the other side, etc. I just think it should be done with respect. Name calling, yelling {typing in capital letters}, etc. is rude and accomplishes nothing. I’ve held opinions that I thought were strong, but I’ve had them changed just from listening to another person’s point of view. I think that’s how we grow and learn.

      I do try to keep things light and fun around here, but I also like to talk about real life and provide a place where people can talk and just enjoy life, ya know? Thank you for your kind words.

      • Diana Arnold

        I agree with the name calling, etc. All that does is turn people off, we don’t change people’s minds, if we stood a chance, to begin with. Like I wrote, …I was brought up in a different time. You are younger and society has changed it’s opinions. But, it’s good too. Some things need to be brought to attention. I just felt bad for you that someone attacked you for just having fun on your own Blog. Sheesh! Some people have too much time on their hands to get so petty. I hope you’ve gotten past this negativity and are having better days.

        • I see what you’re saying… Both of my parents are preachers so religion/faith {and, by default, politics} was always part of the discussion. But I did have friends whose parents didn’t discuss either. The personal attacks over something that was meant to be fun was hurtful, especially since it came from an individual that I would never expect to go there. But you all have made me feel so much better and I know that there are people out there who truly want to learn/engage and still laugh.

  • Juanita

    I hear you. Between all the political stuff and people being killed all over and people saying hurtful things…I feel like I have to shut down. The anonymity of the internet has made it so easy for people to say stupid, nasty, hurtful things…things they would not say to a person’s face…they might be thinking it but they wouldn’t say it out loud, probably not so much for not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings but for fear of getting smacked! Don’t need a survival instinct when making their nasty comments on FB or someone’s blog or news articles. It’s an eye-opener to see what people are really thinking and it’s sad and very disturbing. I’ve got friends and family who have gotten off of FB because it’s a time eater and they are so glad they did. I feel like staying off for awhile, too, because with every headline that comes through my newsfeed, I have to shut my emotions off or I would go crazy. I’ve decided to not make any comments on the controversies as best as I can…occasionally a very IGNORANT comment becomes more than I can handle and I will politely put my two cents worth in!. But what good does that do? It just all becomes arguments and nobody is going to change their mind. I suppose staying off of FB would be better for my emotional well-being but I would miss touching base with certain of my FB friends.

    • “Don’t need a survival instinct when making nasty comments on FB…” Exactly. I don’t mind the discussions so much as I mind the nastiness. Especially when it’s not even relevant to the conversation. I would think people would appreciate and want a laugh to off set all of the hurt, anger, sadness, etc. that’s going on in the world.

  • I can’t for the life of me understand why so many people hate the Obamas so much. You’d think that the POTUS and FLOTUS personally offended those folks the way they’re always fixing their mouths to say something negative about everything. Ugh. Let those people live. And the election has me looking at a few people differently too.

    It’s one thing to disagree, but some folks have taken disagreements to new and low levels. It’s sad though because so many good conversations could be had if more people new how to agree to disagree or debate without hurling insults.

    • Right? I don’t know what they’ve done that people can’t appreciate the good in them. I wasn’t the biggest supporter of Bush 2, but I gained a heap of respect for him on September 11th, it was like he came into his own that day and spoke to the heart of the people. It’s all about finding balance. And disagreeing respectfully.