Living Outside the Stacks

Navigating through life away from the library


Happy Anniversary: How I Met My Husband {In the Family Room}

Today the hubs and I are celebrating 19 years of marriage.

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Here’s the story of how I met my husband…

Anniversary {Living Outside the Stacks}The year was 1994, and I was a sweet, innocent little soldier stationed at Fort Polk, Louisiana, about to celebrate my 2nd year in the Army. This is my story, I can tell it any way that I like, just rest assured that what I’m telling you is the whole truth.  Anyway, I was sitting in the personnel office updating some paperwork, when I see these two guys in a separate part of the office looking at me.  I acknowledged them and kept on talking.  And by acknowledged, I mean, I glared at them and shifted in my chair because they were staring at me.  So I finished my business, said good bye to everyone and started heading out of the office when I felt a tap on my shoulder.

I turned to see one of the guys who was staring at me.  ”My friend would like to ask you out.”  I looked him up and down ~ you know that look we give trifling men ~ and said “Tell your friend if he wants to ask me out, step to me like a man and ask me himself.”  Then I walked away. I later found out that the hubs never asked his friend to say anything to me, the guy just thought he was doing his friend a solid.  I also found out that he’d called his mother and told her that he saw his future wife.  Ummmm, yeah, right….  Actually, I guess he was right.  Hahaha After that, I started seeing my future husband everywhere.  So much so that I seriously thought he was stalking me.

Anniversary {Living Outside the Stacks}The future hubs started coming to the mailroom to pick up mail for this female soldier which irritated me to no end.   I was thinking, wait, wasn’t this man just trying to pick me up the other day?  Whatevs… I had a baby at home, I wasn’t in the mood for any foolishness.  I didn’t bother dealing with him, I had neither the patience nor the time.  Turns out, the girl he was picking mail up for was a single mother who was home convalescing and he was just helping out.

Now I have to break right here to give you a little bit of background…  At the time, I was in charge of the Unit Mailroom and I had about 3 male soldiers working for me, who used to always have their buddies at the mailroom, so there were always vehicles parked behind my office.  However, no one ever parked in my parking space.  Ever. I’m very territorial about my parking spaces, ask anyone who has ever worked with me.

Now back to the story…

Skip ahead a few weeks later, and I pulled into the back of my office and saw this beautiful black Isuzu Rodeo parked in my parking spot. *insert side eye* The windows were down, the music was blaring…it was just begging to be explored.  So I got out of my car, hopped in the truck and started looking around.  Yes, seriously. My parking space, my rules. I had no idea who this truck belonged to but I was going through everything ~ the cds, AC/DC, really? the glove box, etc.  I would never recommend doing such a thing now but I was bold back in the day.  And I was fairly certain that I was safe because I was working under the assumption that the truck belonged to one of my soldier’s friends.  Anyway, I was sitting in the driver’s seat when who should come walking out but Mr. Helpful.  He walked over to the truck with this big ol’ cheese eating grin on his face, leaned in to the window and said: “My name is Sergeant Tucker and I don’t have any money ’cause you’re sitting in it.”  Swoon.  Yep, it was his truck.

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And that, my friends, is the story of how I met my husband.

If you’d like to read what happened when I stood up him up on our first date, go here.  I’ll tell you this much, it involves a stalled car on a dark secluded highway, a trucker and a very forgiving man. cue Hotel California
Daenel T


Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever.  And there may be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

1. I heard on the radio that sales of George Orwell’s 1984 have skyrocketed since news of the domestic surveillance program broke. Don’t get me started on that… On second thought, let’s discuss that. The government should not have the open ended ability to spy on the American citizenry without cause. I do not believe that you have to give up privacy in the name of security.

I know people say that I put it all out there by being on Google, blogging, using Facebook, Instagram, etc but there’s a biiiig difference. I know what I’m releasing onto the web and I’ve agreed to the terms of the release. I know that those entities are collecting my data and I know that they’re using it for ad revenue, stalking, and creating better products.

However, I did not enter into such an agreement with the government. A government that is supposed to be run by “we, the people.”

That being said, I’m not surprised by these revelations because the government has always had the {ca}ability to spy on its people. The problem is, they’re spying on the wrong folks. Just saying…

On a related note, if you want to know how this story ends, just read your Bible, folks, it’s all in there…

2. Do you have a life insurance policy? When was the last time it was updated? Since your divorce and remarriage? Do you have the names of all of your children on it? The reason I’m asking is because the Virginia Supreme Court recently awarded the ex~wife of a Virginia man the money from his life insurance policy despite the fact that the man had remarried. gasp The widow sued but lost because the man had failed to update his policy and the ex~wife was listed as the beneficiary. Yep, the court decided that the written policy expressed the deceased wishes. Say what now? Y’all better check those documents. And if you don’t have a life insurance policy, get on that right away. Trust me, I like the hub’s ex~wife but I’ll be derned if I’d be happy if she got the money from his life insurance policy. Take care of your families, people.

3. And, last but not least, I shared this video on Facebook last week but it’s worth sharing here too. Be prepared with tissue…

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?

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The Wedding {Photography}

A few weeks ago, the hubs and I attended the wedding of a couple from our church. While there, they asked if I could take a couple of pictures for them. Naturally, I said yes and silently thanked God for having me grab my camera on the way out the door.

This is the first time I’ve ever taken wedding pictures but I’m happy with the way they came out. But, more importantly, so are the newly weds.

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 Adjusting the Veil

Candid shot of the bride having her veil adjusted by one of her bridesmaids.

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The Beautiful Bride

A candid shot of the bride looking in the mirror.

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Congratulations to the Happy Couple

Thank you for letting me be a part of your special day,


Marriage {Bible Reading Plan Day 3}

Wedding RingsSCRIPTURE

I Peter 3:1 {NIV}

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if an of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.


There are two key points for me here:

  1. “…submit yourselves to you own husbands…” ~ this does not mean that wives are lesser than or subservient to their husbands nor does this mean that a husband can walk all over his wife {I Peter 3:7}; this means that as the head of the household, the husband is the final authority and wives are to yield themselves to that authority {if you’ve made a wise choice in a partner, this shouldn’t be an issue}, wives are also supposed to be respectful of their husbands
  2. “…they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives…” ~ an unsaved husband should be able to look at his wife and be won over by her actions; as the homemaker, her greatest testimony for the love and redeeming grace of God is her attitude towards her husband and her family


I’m naturally a strong willed person. Even as a little girl, my first inclination was to always do the opposite of whatever my parents told me to do. Over the years, I’ve learned to reign in that personality trait. A little bit. After getting married, the hardest thing for me to do was to not question every single decision my husband made. And by question, I mean, demand that he do things my way because, of course, my way is the right way. As the years have passed, I’m happy that he ultimately showed me that his decisions were the right way to go. I don’t have issues with submitting to my husband anymore because I’ve learned that he is guided by wisdom from God and love for our family.


Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for giving my husband the wisdom to lead our family. Thank you for putting me in a position to recognize that wisdom. Continue to grant me the grace and wisdom that I need to be submissive to my husband. Amen.


Marriage {Bible Reading Plan Day 2}

Marriage {Bible Reading Plan Day 2}SCRIPTURE

Ecclesiastes 9:9 {NIV}

Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun~ all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labour under the sun.


There is one key point for me:

  1. “Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love…” ~ a husband is to find peace and contentment with his wife because he loves her and he chose to be with her


There are so many different diversions out there e.g. video games, movies, etc. that it’s easy to start seeking peace, love and happiness from those things but God commands us to enjoy life with our spouses. He established marriage in the beginning so that man would not be alone {Genesis 2:18~24}, so that he would have a partner to comfort him. Life is hard and can become routine {note the repeated use of the word “meaningless in the scripture} so you have to make sure you choose your partner wisely.


Dear Lord, thank you for my husband. Thank you for putting us on the path that we are now on, where we can entertain each other and make each other laugh. Thank you for helping us to find the joy in our marriage. Amen.

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