11th Mar2014

Happy Anniversary: How I Met My Husband {In the Family Room}

by Daenel

Today, the hubs and I are celebrating 19 years of marriage, so I thought it’d be fun to share the story of how I met my husband…

Anniversary {Living Outside the Stacks}

The year was 1994, and I was a sweet, innocent little soldier stationed at Fort Polk, Louisiana, about to celebrate my 2nd year in the Army. This is my story, I can tell it any way that I like, just rest assured that what I’m telling you is the whole truth.  Anyway, I was sitting in the personnel office updating some paperwork, when I see these two guys in a separate part of the office looking at me.  I acknowledged them and kept on talking.  And by acknowledged, I mean, I glared at them and shifted in my chair because they were staring at me.  So I finished my business, said good bye to everyone and started heading out of the office when I felt a tap on my shoulder.

Anniversary {Living Outside the Stacks}I turned to see one of the guys who was staring at me.  “My friend would like to ask you out.”  I looked him up and down ~ you know that look we give trifling men ~ and said “Tell your friend if he wants to ask me out, step to me like a man and ask me himself.”  Then I walked away. I later found out that the hubs never asked his friend to say anything to me, the guy just thought he was doing his friend a solid.  I also found out that he’d called his mother and told her that he saw his future wife.  Ummmm, yeah, right….  Actually, I guess he was right.  Hahaha After that, I started seeing my future husband everywhere.  So much so that I seriously thought he was stalking me.

The future hubs started coming to the mailroom to pick up mail for this female soldier which irritated me to no end.   I was thinking, wait, wasn’t this man just trying to pick me up the other day?  Whatevs… I had a baby at home, I wasn’t in the mood for any foolishness.  I didn’t bother dealing with him, I had neither the patience nor the time.  Turns out, the girl he was picking mail up for was a single mother who was home convalescing and he was just helping out.

Anniversary {Living Outside the Stacks}Now I have to break right here to give you a little bit of background…  At the time, I was in charge of the Unit Mailroom and I had about 3 male soldiers working for me, who used to always have their buddies at the mailroom, so there were always vehicles parked behind my office.  However, no one ever parked in my parking space.  Ever. I’m very territorial about my parking spaces, ask anyone who has ever worked with me.

Now back to the story…

Skip ahead a few weeks later, and I pulled into the back of my office and saw this beautiful black Isuzu Rodeo parked in my parking spot. *insert side eye* The windows were down, the music was blaring…it was just begging to be explored.  So I got out of my car, hopped in the truck and started looking around.  Yes, seriously. My parking space, my rules. I had no idea who this truck belonged to but I was going through everything ~ the cds, AC/DC, really? the glove box, etc.  I would never recommend doing such a thing now but I was bold back in the day.  And I was fairly certain that I was safe because I was working under the assumption that the truck belonged to one of my soldier’s friends.  Anyway, I was sitting in the driver’s seat when who should come walking out but Mr. Helpful.  He walked over to the truck with this big ol’ cheese eating grin on his face, leaned in to the window and said: “My name is Sergeant Tucker and I don’t have any money ’cause you’re sitting in it.”  Swoon.  Yep, it was his truck.

Anniversary {Living Outside the Stacks}

And that, my friends, is the story of how I met my husband.

If you’d like to read what happened when I stood up him up on our first date, go here.  I’ll tell you this much, it involves a stalled car on a dark secluded highway, a trucker and a very forgiving man. cue Hotel California
Daenel T

17th Jun2013

Coffee Talk {In the Cafe}

by Daenel

Coffee Talk {Living Outside the Stacks}

Hi, and welcome to Coffee Talk. In case you’re new here, this is where I share some of the great and not~so~great stuff that I find on the web. Topics range from news stories that leave me scratchin’ my head to DIYs that I think are absolutely clever.  And there may be a recipe thrown in here or there just for fun.

1. I heard on the radio that sales of George Orwell’s 1984 have skyrocketed since news of the domestic surveillance program broke. Don’t get me started on that… On second thought, let’s discuss that. The government should not have the open ended ability to spy on the American citizenry without cause. I do not believe that you have to give up privacy in the name of security.

I know people say that I put it all out there by being on Google, blogging, using Facebook, Instagram, etc but there’s a biiiig difference. I know what I’m releasing onto the web and I’ve agreed to the terms of the release. I know that those entities are collecting my data and I know that they’re using it for ad revenue, stalking, and creating better products.

However, I did not enter into such an agreement with the government. A government that is supposed to be run by “we, the people.”

That being said, I’m not surprised by these revelations because the government has always had the {ca}ability to spy on its people. The problem is, they’re spying on the wrong folks. Just saying…

On a related note, if you want to know how this story ends, just read your Bible, folks, it’s all in there…

2. Do you have a life insurance policy? When was the last time it was updated? Since your divorce and remarriage? Do you have the names of all of your children on it? The reason I’m asking is because the Virginia Supreme Court recently awarded the ex~wife of a Virginia man the money from his life insurance policy despite the fact that the man had remarried. gasp The widow sued but lost because the man had failed to update his policy and the ex~wife was listed as the beneficiary. Yep, the court decided that the written policy expressed the deceased wishes. Say what now? Y’all better check those documents. And if you don’t have a life insurance policy, get on that right away. Trust me, I like the hub’s ex~wife but I’ll be derned if I’d be happy if she got the money from his life insurance policy. Take care of your families, people.

3. And, last but not least, I shared this video on Facebook last week but it’s worth sharing here too. Be prepared with tissue…

What had you scratchin’ your head this past week?

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10th Nov2012

The Wedding {Photography}

by Daenel

A few weeks ago, the hubs and I attended the wedding of a couple from our church. While there, they asked if I could take a couple of pictures for them. Naturally, I said yes and silently thanked God for having me grab my camera on the way out the door.

This is the first time I’ve ever taken wedding pictures but I’m happy with the way they came out. But, more importantly, so are the newly weds.

The Wedding {Living Outside the Stacks}

 Adjusting the Veil

Candid shot of the bride having her veil adjusted by one of her bridesmaids.

The Wedding {Living Outside the Stacks}

The Beautiful Bride

A candid shot of the bride looking in the mirror.

The Wedding {Living Outside the Stacks}

Congratulations to the Happy Couple

Thank you for letting me be a part of your special day,

01st Feb2012

Marriage {Bible Reading Plan Day 3}

by Daenel

Wedding RingsSCRIPTURE

I Peter 3:1 {NIV}

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if an of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.

OBSERVATION

There are two key points for me here:

  1. “…submit yourselves to you own husbands…” ~ this does not mean that wives are lesser than or subservient to their husbands nor does this mean that a husband can walk all over his wife {I Peter 3:7}; this means that as the head of the household, the husband is the final authority and wives are to yield themselves to that authority {if you’ve made a wise choice in a partner, this shouldn’t be an issue}, wives are also supposed to be respectful of their husbands
  2. “…they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives…” ~ an unsaved husband should be able to look at his wife and be won over by her actions; as the homemaker, her greatest testimony for the love and redeeming grace of God is her attitude towards her husband and her family

APPLICATION

I’m naturally a strong willed person. Even as a little girl, my first inclination was to always do the opposite of whatever my parents told me to do. Over the years, I’ve learned to reign in that personality trait. A little bit. After getting married, the hardest thing for me to do was to not question every single decision my husband made. And by question, I mean, demand that he do things my way because, of course, my way is the right way. As the years have passed, I’m happy that he ultimately showed me that his decisions were the right way to go. I don’t have issues with submitting to my husband anymore because I’ve learned that he is guided by wisdom from God and love for our family.

PRAYER

Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for giving my husband the wisdom to lead our family. Thank you for putting me in a position to recognize that wisdom. Continue to grant me the grace and wisdom that I need to be submissive to my husband. Amen.

31st Jan2012

Marriage {Bible Reading Plan Day 2}

by Daenel

Marriage {Bible Reading Plan Day 2}SCRIPTURE

Ecclesiastes 9:9 {NIV}

Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun~ all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labour under the sun.

OBSERVATION

There is one key point for me:

  1. “Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love…” ~ a husband is to find peace and contentment with his wife because he loves her and he chose to be with her

APPLICATION

There are so many different diversions out there e.g. video games, movies, etc. that it’s easy to start seeking peace, love and happiness from those things but God commands us to enjoy life with our spouses. He established marriage in the beginning so that man would not be alone {Genesis 2:18~24}, so that he would have a partner to comfort him. Life is hard and can become routine {note the repeated use of the word “meaningless in the scripture} so you have to make sure you choose your partner wisely.

PRAYER

Dear Lord, thank you for my husband. Thank you for putting us on the path that we are now on, where we can entertain each other and make each other laugh. Thank you for helping us to find the joy in our marriage. Amen.

30th Jan2012

Marriage {Bible Reading Plan Day 1}

by Daenel

Marriage {Bible Reading Plan Day 1}SCRIPTURE

Genesis 2:18 {NIV}

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

OBSERVATION

Two things stick out for me from this scripture:

  1. “…It is not good that the man should be alone;” ~ God knew that man needed someone like himself to talk to and interact with so that he would not be lonely
  2. “I will make him an help meet for him.” ~ woman was made to be man’s partner and helper; her God ordained role was to help her husband by meeting his needs

APPLICATION

My husband always says that his primary duty at work is to make his boss’s job easier. Meaning his responsibility is to take care of the detail work so that his boss can keep an eye on the big picture.  He also says if he isn’t making his boss’s job easier then he should be fired. Crazy sense of responsibility, right? This should also be the primary role of the wife ~ to make her husband’s life easier so he can focus on the big stuff.

I know I’m guilty of adding stress to my husband by bogging him down with the gory details of life. There have been times when I’ve dropped the ball on things that he’s asked me to take care of either because I forgot or because I simply didn’t want to handle it. Not cool. As a “help meet” to my husband, my responsibility is to keep the house running, make sure the kids have everything they need, essentially to make his home life easier so that he can take care of his work life and provide for us.

PRAYER

Dear Lord, thank you for recognizing that we’re not meant to be alone. Thank you for placing my husband in my life and for trusting me with my children. Help me to meet all of their needs and to be the wife and mother that you have called me to be. Amen.

27th Oct2011

No Cell Phones in Hospitals, Or How the Hubs Almost Killed Me

by Daenel
No Cell Phones

Image Courtesy of Microsoft (Edited with Picasa)

The hubs will tell anyone who asks that he prayed that God would send someone like me into his life. He will also tell them that he should have been a little more specific in his request, you know other than “Please let her be smart and pretty enough that I don’t have to close one eye to look at her.” He should have added “And let her be a mature responsible woman who doesn’t act crazy in hospitals.” Really, some of our best funniest stories have occurred in hospitals.

I think this moment is probably one of the top times when the hubs has seriously rethought his prayer request…

You know how hospitals have big ol’ honkin’ signs all over that say “No Cell Phones Past This Point”? Yeah, they’re there for a reason. So one day after undergoing surgery, I decided to “playfully” demonstrate to the hubs that the no cell phone policy was not a suggestion…

Me: lying on the bed in the recovery room, I open my eyes to see the hubs dialing numbers on his cell phone

Hubs: “Hi, just wanted to call and let you know Daenel’s out of surgery… Yeah, she’s doing fine… We’re in the recovery room…”

Me: starts flopping around on the bed like I’m having convulsions “C~c~c~cell ph~ph~phone. Hang it up! N~n~n~now!”

Hubs: Drops the phone and runs out into the hall “Doctor! Doctor! Come quick! Something’s wrong!”

Me: laughing hysterically “Dude, I’m ok. I was just messing with you.”

It’s been 10 years since my surgery and the hubs still doesn’t find this story anywhere near as amusing as I do. Therefore, I’m not allowed to tell it very often. But I figure since I’m 10 years cancer free we can all celebrate with a good laugh.

15th Sep2011

How I Met My Husband

by Daenel

The KissThe year was 1994, and I was a sweet, innocent little soldier stationed at Fort Polk, Louisiana, about to celebrate my 2nd year in the Army. This is my story, I can tell it any way that I like, just rest assured that what I’m telling you is the whole truth.  Anyway, I was sitting in the personnel office updating some paperwork, when I see these two guys in a separate part of the office looking at me.  I acknowledged them and kept on talking.  And by acknowledged, I mean, I glared at them and shifted in my chair because they were staring at me.  So I finished my business, said good bye to everyone and started heading out of the office when I felt a tap on my shoulder.

I turned to see one of the guys who was staring at me.  “My friend would like to ask you out.”  I looked him up and down ~ you know that look we give trifling men ~ and said “Tell your friend if he wants to ask me out, step to me like a man and ask me himself.”  Then I walked away. I later found out that the hubs never asked his friend to say anything to me, the guy just thought he was doing his friend a solid.  I also found out that he’d called his mother and told her that he saw his future wife.  Ummmm, yeah, right….  Actually, I guess he was right.  Hahaha After that, I started seeing my future husband everywhere.  So much that I seriously thought he was stalking me.

The future hubs started coming to the mailroom to pick up mail for this female soldier which irritated me to no end.   I was thinking, wait, wasn’t this man just trying to pick me up the other day?  Whatevs… I had a baby at home, I wasn’t in the mood for any foolishness.  I didn’t bother dealing with him, I had neither the patience nor the time.  Turns out, the girl he was picking mail up for was a single mother who was home convalescing and he was just helping out.

Now I have to break right here to give you a little bit of background…  At the time, I was in charge of the Unit Mailroom and I had about 3 male soldiers working for me, who used to always have their buddies at the mailroom, so there were always vehicles parked behind my office.  However, no one ever parked in my parking space.  Ever.

Now back to the story…

Skip ahead a few weeks later, and I pulled into the back of my office and saw this beautiful black Isuzu Rodeo parked in my parking spot.  The windows were down, the music was blaring, it was just begging to be explored.  So I got out of my car, hopped in the truck and started looking around.  I had no idea who this truck belonged to but I was in everything ~ the cds, the glove box, etc.  I would never recommend doing such a thing now but I was bold back in the day.  And I was fairly certain that I was safe because I was working under the assumption that the truck belonged to one of my soldier’s friends.  Anyway, I was sitting in the driver’s seat when who should come walking out but Mr. Helpful.  He walked over to the truck with this big ol’ cheese eating grin on his face, leaned in to the window and said “My name is Sergeant Tucker and I don’t have any money ’cause you’re sitting in it.”  Swoon.  Yep, it was his truck.

And that, my friends, is the story of how I met my husband.

If you’d like to read what happened when I stood up him up on our first date, go here.  I’ll tell you this much, it involves a stalled car on a dark secluded highway, a trucker and a very forgiving man.

05th Sep2011

Monday Mingle: Recreation, Marriage Vows and Kids

by Daenel


Monday MingleMakeup Free Monday is hosted by The Beauty Bean as an initiative for women to celebrate real beauty.  I love makeup almost as much as I love shoes but I also like encouraging women to embrace their natural beauty.  Confidence is beautiful, makeup is the enhancer.

If you decide to participate in Makeup Free Monday let me know in the comments.

Monday MingleMonday Mingle is hosted by Jenn at Eighty MPH Mom. If you’d like to participate, simply create a short vlog in which you answer the questions and then hit up the linky. Don’t forget to grab the badge and leave some comment love for your fellow participants. After all, isn’t that what mingling is all about?

This week’s questions are:

1.  What are some fun attractions near where you live (farms, amusement parks, etc.)?

I’m still learning the area but the one thing I can say this area has a lot of is parks.  There are parks everywhere ~ water parks, play areas, picnic areas, etc.  And they’re all within walking distance of each other or just a short drive away from the various developments.

My plan is to check out the conservation park and the Trail of Tears.  Haven’t done it yet, but it’s on the list of things to do.

2.  Where’s the last place you and your spouse went alone?

In the video, I said the last place the hubs and I visited alone was Ocean City, Maryland last year (two years ago?) but I forgot that we actually came down here by ourselves before we brought the kids.  But that wasn’t really a vacation, that was a pre~decision trip to decide whether or not we wanted to move here.

But the hubs and I do try to go to breakfast or dinner together once a month just so we can reconnect.  We don’t wanna be that couple who gets divorced as soon as the last kid leaves the house.  So we’re trying to make sure that we build and maintain a friendship now.

3.  Are you happy the kids are back in school?

I’m so incredibly happy.  I wanted to learn how to do a back flip just for that event.  Hahahaha  Seriously, I loved spending the summer with my kids.  We did a lot this year ~ traveled from Pennsylvania to Mississippi, they flew on a plane for the first time, the kids and I drove from Mississippi to Missouri together, etc.  I think this is a summer they’ll remember for the rest of their lives.

Next week’s questions are:

I’ll post them as soon as I find out what they are…

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